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MummyFreckle 
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:21pm |
keep in touch with an ex? Would you be friends with them or are you friends with them? An ex has just friended me on FB, and I know that I no longer have any feelings for him, so its not an issue, but it got me thinking about how many people are actually friends with an ex and how their current partners/ husbands feel about it?
ETA - I should add, this particular "ex" is from when I was 18, very young, and well before I met DH who I have been with for 12 yrs!
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:22pm |
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I am with one of mine. He even came to our wedding so there is absolutely no issue there.
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:25pm |
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I still talk to some of my ex's depends on the type of person the are really
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BugTeeny
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:27pm |
I don't really have enough ex's to be friends with.
I'm still close with an old high school boyfriend, but we were friends first, so it's just a natural thing, really.
The only other ex of any note (ie: we went out for more than 3 months lol) is so far up his own butt that I couldn't be his friend if I tried 
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:28pm |
Yep I am with 2 of mine and 1 of them I am giving him parenting and wedding info.
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 5:36pm |
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Yep. My ex before Matt I was with for 9 years, we're great mates still, were better as mates than anything else anyway!
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 6:02pm |
I was friends with 1 of mine up til a few months ago (have been with DH for over 4 years). I think he felt a bit wierd about me having a kid because he has fertility problems
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 6:07pm |
I'm still friendly with the ex husband .. the ex before husband number one, broke my heart at age 18, so when I saw him at the gym and he tried to talk to me I pretended I didnt see him because if he wanted to talk to me, he should have married me. 
Note - its getting much harder to deliberately ignore him when he stands next to the treadmill while im running trying to catch my eye. 
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 6:20pm |
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heh heh , maybe he will try and wave to catch your attention and fall off the treadmill ...then you can notice him , and point and laugh
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 6:41pm |
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I am still in contact with one of mine.. He is a great guy and a great friend. But DP doesn't like to think that ex is still in my life so I just keep it quiet. DP is scared that ex will try and get me back, which is crazy since ex is the one that broke it off and it was 6yrs ago.
Though I won't talk to my first ever ex, mainly because he wasn't very nice to me and I had to change Islands to get away from him (best thing that ever happened). Though he has tried his hardest to stay friends but I think he has finally got the message.
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 6:53pm |
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I just became friends with an ex recently on FB. It was great to catch up with him. He broke my heart at the time but I am well over it now! I love hearing where life has taken my ex's and some I have to admit that I am happy I never married them!
DH is also friends on FB with his ex of 5 years that broke his heart and cheated on him with his mate! She was the ex just before he started seeing me. I have no problems with him being friends with her, she screwed up and I scored him, so I have her to thank for that!!
Infact we are going to a wedding next Friday and I know she will be there!
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 8:15pm |
DH's ex is one of our best mates  They were together for a while, but just didn't mesh properly...my ex, I only think about what a lucky escape I had. I do keep in contact with a few of the others, and DH isn't thrilled (he thinks they all want me back, regardless of the fact that most of them are in long-term relationships etc), but it's simply platonic. I invited one to our wedding as well (he and his partner couldn't travel for it, but all good).
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 8:28pm |
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I keep in touch with a few "exes" - mostly teenage romances. The only other long term boyfriend I had aside from DH was heartbroken by me and has refused to speak to me ever since!
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:01pm |
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Hmm interesting, glad to know im not the only one. My ex from hmm 5 years ago, he emails me every morning without fail to say good morning... DP doesnt seem to mind, also we think he is gay. He is moving to Brisbane soon, which im pretty upset about. DP doesnt like him so much now that we were out one night and my ex got really drunk and told him what he thought of DP, it wasnt nice. I was really upset with him but he said he had no reason to say what he did and apologized lots... My other ex lives in Perth, was a long distance relationship, we still talk, he has moved on and building a house with his new partner and i love hearing how he is getting on..
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:05pm |
well unfortunatly i have to stay in contact with my ex as he's Amelias dad , altho hes only seen her 5 times in her whole life ( 7 months old) my current partner hates the fact we are in contact as he is the main man in Amelias life and does all the "daddy" stuff , i can see where hes coming from but unfortunatly i dont think i could just stop contact all together with Amelia and her Dad , id feel too giulty (even tho her dad does nothing for her) . I still need to give him a chance ... or 2... or 3... or 4 
im still friends with one of my exes tho, he was a great support and friend to me actually when i was pregnant with Amelia .
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:10pm |
I stay in touch with my ex but mostly cos we have a son together........but i think i would have him as a friend on FB even if we didnt have a child.
We have in the past stayed at his place .......i say we being me and my now husband. this was before he got another girlfriend (or now wife) then he went all weird like he had to hate me cos i was the ex wife.........really peeved me off. Him and my DH got along so well and did nothing but give me sh*t
My current MIL even invited him to stay with his then girlfriend when they were passing through, which i thought was kinda weird.......
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:14pm |
Absolutely not! There's a reason why they're exes! 
I would rather cut my head off, fry it up with ham and eggs (and I'm a vegetarian) and pour it down my throat than talk to any of my exes lol. I give my absolute all to relationships but if they don't work out, I move on TOTALLY.
Looks like I'm the odd one out lol
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:15pm |
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PS- obviously if DF and I broke up the above would not apply lol as we have a baby together. But there'd be none of this 'what if' crap. I know, I'm a hard arse lol
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:19pm |
Nope, Emmecat, your not.
I only have one real ex (apart from highschool stuff) and I don't keep in touch with him at all. My mum does business with him though so I get updates and no doubt so does he
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Posted: 23 February 2010 at 9:22pm |
Yeah I gotta say I find it SO weird that people (incl DF ) keep in touch with exes (who they don't have children to I mean).
It's not that I hate my exes- not at all- it's just that I don't think about them cos that part of my life is over IYKWIM? Even my 'great love' doesn't get the time of day in my mind cos once I'd grieved and processed our relationships demise then it was time to move on
NEXT! lol
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