Dumped by Midwife

What do I do now!!!

I'm six weeks off my due date and MW can't look after me coz her mum broke her hip.

I am so overwhelmed and depressed by this.

Yeah I was thinking try the backup. Failing that ring around and explain the situation to other MWs and see if anyone is willing to take you on.

She has no backup.

She has given me names of two midwives tho so will have to pluck up some courage to call them and hope they have space for me.

Just so not what I needed right now.

i would think that she would be obligated to find you an alternative though. and i dont see how a broken hip would affect that much. they operate on them asap and get the patients up walking the day after the surgery. i think there is something else going on here.

If she doesnt pass you on to someone else or her relief cant take you then i would complain.

Bizzy wrote: i think there is something else going on here. .

I can't help but think that too but then maybe my state of mind atm

sunnyhoney wrote: Bizzy wrote: i think there is something else going on here. . I can't help but think that too but then maybe my state of mind atm

ooops then i probably didnt help. sorry!

Has she refered you on or said she will? If not i would complain ...   and also contact the hospital - they will take you on.

Depending on her mums age and social situation ie does she live alone etc, broken hips can take weeks/months to recover from depending on the health of a person and how bad the break was and when the pt was able to get into surgery- sometimes can take a few days as more acute cases take priority. There are so many things that go into a broken hip, and some people physically cant stand let alone walk the next day. Trust me- this is what I do as a job the rehab process can certainly be lengthy. I wouldnt go down the "is it something I did" path as it most likely has nothing to do with you.
I am really surprised that she doesnt have a backup

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Edited by MindyW

Her handling of the sitution would def have made me angry as well! I would ring around midwives and explain what has happened, purely because I dont think yelling at her would make much difference and you may feel better to begin with but I dont think it will change anything

No she is an independant MW.
All her other clients have already been handed on a few weeks back because she was going to stop being a midwife and get a job at the hospital. However, she told me profusely that she would be keeping me and continuing my care. This is what makes me think something else is going on, like it is too much for her (workload) or some other thing.
Anyways, as much as me and DH are off about it, I just don't want to deal with her anymore. Even if her reason is legit I think she has handled it really badly.
Have just heard back from Birthcare midwives and they may be able to take me on...so some good news at least.

I know it is not going to help you now - but maybe let the Midwifery Council know, cos the more I think about it as well, it just seems wrong.