really angry/upset

hi all, im just really upset and need some advice.

i stayed at my partners house on thursday night and in the moring i needed to check my emails so i went on his lap top, and when i clicked on hotmail it went straight into his one, but it was a new email addy that i havint seen before..... so i looked and it had emails from about 10 diff sites on dateing sites and i looked at his profiles they were all made in dec, jan!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and he was telling the women how he has a baby but is only a weekend daddy!!!!!!!! i pretended nothing happend as my driviing test was that morning and when i passed and got home i told him that i didint want to be with him and he just said ok and went to his car!!! then i said if i did this to you ur heart would be broken and all he said to me was dont you think it breaks my heart to do it to you!!!! thats when i just walked away.. hes now texted me a few times saying how he feels so bad and how hes sorry. i didint text back so he said to me thats fine if you dont want to talk to me but hows mila?

how would this all make you feel

Wow chick. You probably don't want to hear it but do you really want to be with someone who is clearly playing the field behind your back?

What an a*sehole.

That is awful, agree with Italiah make all your contact with him only about Mila and only when you agree to it.
He's trying to have you and whomever else, what a fantastic role model for your daughter.

Did you guys ever get counselling? It's odd that he doesn't seem to like himself for doing it, but seems helpless IYGWIM.

Wow!! What a C U Next Tuesday!!!!

Well, maybe he's checked out of the relationship already if he's 1) looking at dating sites (and lots of them) and 2) says he's only a weekend daddy and 3) was happy for you to walk away.

If he let you walk so easily, then it's obvious that he doesn't feel like he's losing something.

Sometimes I wonder if cheaters feel bad and sorry ONLY because they've been caught.

It's a tough one and only you will know what to do but as Flutterby said your baby needs a confident happy mother. Can you be sure if you stay with him that your confidence/happiness will remain in tact?

Good Luck chick.

In answer to your OP question -one word: Betrayed.

That would take a lot to bounce back from. Especially as it's not opportunistic but pre-mediatated and calculating.

His response speaks volumes too - he's hardly being honest about his feelings/guilt is he?

I'm so sorry you had to go through this. You deserve better treatment. Amazing that you could sit your license under those conditions

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I dont really have too much advice but I just want to give you a cyber hug, and I hope you get through this.

Wow that is not acceptable!

I haven't read your other posts Chonni but in answer to your question - I would not be happy if that was me! I really feel for you and hope you get through this okay whatever your decision

hi tanx for all your replys, i went out lastnight to the town with the girls but guess who i saw!!!!! i was so mad like he really doesint care at all!!!, i asked him to come around to mine today so i could get some answers and he sat there crying (all about him)) i said to him why are you even crying u wanted this) then i said to him did you even want me at all and he said he hasint wanted me in ages and tryed to leave me!!!

i also said to him congrats u said u were a weekend dad, and now thats what you get you will neva be able to wake up and see your child every moring anymore!!!!!!!


when he got up to leave i said i will contact you about times for mila and dont text me about how she is i will text you if anythings wrong with her but other than that you mean nothing to me, your not my friend, your now my partner your nothing...


was that to harsh?? haha i was just so angry and upset

O yeah! Fantastic, you go girl!! that wasnt harsh, it was spot on!
From now on, you need to ensure you only speak postively about him to your daughter, and if things start to get nasty get yourself a good family lawyer. Otherwise, burn anything that reminds you of him!!