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nikkitheknitter 
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Posted: 25 January 2007 at 9:50pm |
I'm stoney heart the first usually... but I'm crying for the first time in ages. (So I've hidden in my room so flatties can't see and am whinging to you ladies instead!)
My friend had a brain tumour a couple of years ago (I think I've mentioned him before). They removed it, it grew back, then they removed it again and thankfully it didn't grow back (well, straight away).
Since then he has given up uni, been travelling around the world, and has just come back to the Mount to live with his mum as he started throwing up and getting bad migraines when he was working in Melbourne.
They found two tumours, one in the same place as the first and another on the side that is inoperable. So the docs removed as much of the first one as they could but couldn't touch the second. And now half his face is paralysed. His whole side was paralysed, but thankfully he can walk again.
It's just not fair. Especially when I consider what else I've been sad about today... how sucky men are and how I'm never going to find one. It just seems so shallow compared to what he is going through and then I feel bad for thinking it in the first place.
So yeah... just had to be depressed here because I can't anywhere else. 
I'm going home next weekend though and will go visit him with Hannah. 
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Posted: 25 January 2007 at 10:01pm |
Chin up love! Sounds as though you are a good friend to him, probably what he needs, and a visit will probably cheer you both up 
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Posted: 25 January 2007 at 10:41pm |
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Oh Nikki I'm so sorry for you and especially your friend.
One thing that always wakes me up when I'm feeling sorry for myself is reminding myself that there are plenty of people living through worse. Thats very real for you at the moment huh?
Good on you for being such a supportive friend, I hope you're feeling a little brighter now and that you have a really special visit next weekend.
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Posted: 25 January 2007 at 10:49pm |
awww hun i agree with the outher ladys it sounds like you are a great friend the vist sounds like a great idae big hugs hunny i have a friend who is going for a ct scan on monday for a possable turmour soooo we can be there for each outher and men yes they sux i soo agree with you on that one 
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Posted: 25 January 2007 at 11:02pm |
Big hugs to you. Hope you feel better tomorrow. Great idea to visit your friend.
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 12:36am |
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Hugs Nikki! Thinking of you, and you know where to find us if you need anything!
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 6:58am |
big hugs
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 8:52am |
Hey thanks everyone! Feel much better this morning. I just had to get it all out before I saw him ya know? Apparently they are all staying really positive... so I need to get back to being my optimistic self
Lu - I hope like heck your friend's scan brings up something that is easily dealt with.
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 9:15am |
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I have decided that life is so unfair !! The sooner we accept this and move on the easier life is. We just have to try and make the most for whatever life throws our way
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 9:22am |
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Sorry - I'm back to post again... constantly lurking!
Just wanted to reply to you Lou and say that it is very true! And to be honest, this guy has lived his whole life as if there were no tomorrow. So in some weird sense, atleast it is ok that he has no regrets!
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 10:14am |
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Hi Nikki ...I'm so sorry about your friend. It puts life into perspective when we hear of what really hard times some people are going through.
I hope you are ok, and I'm sure your friend wouldn't begrudge you your feelings, which are out of love for him.
Take care.
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 11:04am |
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big hugs!
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 11:53am |
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Hey Nikki, you are such a good friend to care so much, and it is his friends and family that will help him through whatever happens next.
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 12:58pm |
Hey Nikki, glad you are feeling happier chick The more I think about it, the more I realise that life can really be just a big old bunch of arse sometimes... And I agree Lou, it can be SO unfair. But you are a good friend, and he needs lots of love around him at this time - I'll be sending positive, tumour zapping vibes to him
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 1:27pm |
thanks nikki i hoping not too
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 1:29pm |
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What a great friend you are, Nikki! And if you need a break on your way there or back, feel free to stop in here!
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 1:59pm |
Will do Becca About due for a visit!
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 3:19pm |
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wow your such a great friend, we really do not know how short life is aye, a friend arrived at coffee group today and a friend of theirs passed away last night it was the mum and they have a 4.5 year old boy,so sad, hope you get to have some quality time with your friend.
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Posted: 26 January 2007 at 5:21pm |
I'm not sure where everyone is getting this idea that I am a great friend from! hehehehe  
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Posted: 27 January 2007 at 11:11am |
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The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P
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