Eloping

Never done it, but go for it if thats what YOU guys want! People will probably get annoyed, but its what YOU want and you'll never please everyone anyway you do it!

How exciting!!! Where are you planning on doing it?

The only thing I would worry about was my parents and DHs parents.

A friend was telling us about her brother who just got married in Fiji. He & DW live in London, her family is Irish (i think) and his family is in the Bay. They said that it was not fair on either side to invite or not invite so just went on their own, His parents were really sad (so was my friend who would have love a trip to Fiji ). We were all talking about it and now think *how would we feel if it was Amy or Sophie or M or L...* we all thought that we would be pretty upset.

Not judging, just an opinion (and at times when we were planning our wedding, eloping was quite an appealing option at times )

I really wanted to elope but we buckled to the pressure and had a wedding with 100 guests, which I organised in 14 weeks and with 3 weeks to go till the wedding we found out I was pregnant (finally - we had been trying for a year) then my Aunty/Godmother from Australia fell down the stairs the night before the wedding and fractured her skull which meant she was not at the wedding of course. Needless to say up until the moment I walked down the aisle I kept thinking "we should have eloped!!!" I really enjoyed the wedding and I am so glad we did it now, but to be honest I think i would have been just as happy if we had eloped.......so if its what you both really want to do go for it! and what a beautiful & special place to get married!

hopefully Lilfatty will see this thread, she and her dh eloped, from what shes said , they had a beautiful intimate elopement.

Congrats by the way, how exciting!

MamaPickle wrote -
But, at the end of the day, if you feel you can cope with that and know all will be forgiven, then eff 'em

Love it lol

We 'eloped' - well, we decided to go to Fiji and didn't invite anyone.

The catalyst for our decision is family tension. My mother and brother don't talk to each other and my Mum pulled a guilt trip which went something like "If he can't talk to me now, then is he going to talk to me at the wedding..... and if he's not going to talk to me at the wedding..." *cue picking lint off pants* "...then, I just don't know....." which pretty much meant that if I didn't make him talk to her, she wasn't going to come.

I ended up saying to my partner "F*ck it, lets go to Fiji" and that was it!!

It worked out perfectly for us. We got a holiday, a wedding and a honeymoon in one. We didn't have to worry about accommodating everyone and DH didn't have to 1) wear a suit and 2) worry about being the centre of attention (he's a shy guy).

There were quite a few people who's feathers were ruffled about not getting invited but who's payng for it?

The only reason I wished we had got married in NZ is that we really need a new dinner set

We eloped , Just went to the registry office and had four close friends there,the to a pub after . our reason was we had just bought a house and it was either renovations or a big wedding.

Only DH sister spat the dummy but only because she a selfish, self centered person and was upset because SHE didn't get to come to the wedding. She ended up turning up at the pub we'd been at just after we left and throwing a tanty ( the woman is nearly 50 ! )

It has to be what you want and can/want to pay not about everyone else . People will understand and if they take offence it really is their problem, they shoud respect what your wishes are !

And congrats on the elopement

We kind of eloped.. not really, in the sense that we told our mums and a few others before we went on holiday..but we didn't tell workmates or make a big thing of it. Ended up getting married in Las Vegas with no guests or family there which was awesome! And contrary to what tv shows portray..you can't just walk in off the street and do it... there is some organising involved haha

Luckily our families weren't annoyed that we were organising something without them. It was our holiday, and the wedding was our day so we wouldn't have cared anyway.

Edited by pepsi

I think maybe you should consider inviting your parents down. If your sister has already eloped they'll probably be so gutted to miss yours as well. I know weddings are about the bride and groom but parents have dreamt about their kids futures and their weddings for longer even than we have and I can understand why they'd be really disappointed to miss out on not one but two daughters weddings IYKWIM?!
ETA: this is just my thought thats all not bagging your decision

We're planning on eloping and in fact my parents think its a fabulous idea and offered to pay for us to go to the islands LOL but I've already been married and my dad has already walked me down the aisle. They really hope we'll let them come but they totally understand if we wana do it ourselves. DPs family not so much though thats the only thing that'd stop it - hes an only son, his dad has passed away so theres his mum, sister, her daughter and his nana. They'd spew if we eloped (but then his mother was the one who offered him a $30,000 house deposit if he left me and went back home, so they would be more upset that he married me than about us eloping ) so we'll probably end up telling them they can come if they wana pay their own way. FX they can't but its not gonna ruin anything for us to have both sets of immediate family there.

Edited by Babe

Yep we eloped .. and we announced it by sending this

BREAKING NEWS link to everyone.

Oh and saying your vows in such an intimate surrounding is THE most amazing experience, it really does feel like its just you and your partner standing before god.

PS - We did actually tell our parents just before hand, just out of respect (and we didnt want them to have a heart attack on our return)