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BabyOnBoard 
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:36pm |
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Ok so DF parents insisted on helping us move. I was fine with that and had even thought we would get them a nice big koha. BUT she makes DF give her his eftpos card so she can pay for everything she has organized (no warning to us about hiring a trailer). Checked the balance of the joint account this morning and she withdrew it all!! And because she went to an ATM first I know she withdrew all she could see that was in the account!!
I thought helping was about giving not taking?! I have an HP going out tonight that I had to get my own mother to cover just so I wont get bad debt.
You think she would realise we are having a baby and need all the money we can get! Is it wrong to want to strangle her??!
*Here endth my rant*
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Leish
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:38pm |
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OMG!! That is sooooo rude. I wouldn't put up with that at all. No it's not wrong to want to strangle her at all.
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:39pm |
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Omg! I would be fuming!!
Yay for them offering to help, but taking out all the money in your account without consulting you is stupid! What if that was all the money you had to live off?
Bloody MILs
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 6:49pm |
grrrrr alright  how bloody rude and insensitive...i would confrotnher and ask her why she found it necessary to take all the money...
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 7:00pm |
Argh! That is awful!!! Why did she need ALL the money anyway?!?!?! I agree with gandt...ask her why she took it all
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 8:05pm |
There seems to be a rather odd relationship between your DF and his mum if he gives away his Eftpos card and PIN to her  What does he think about it all?
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 8:05pm |
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I did and she said "Oh was that not meant for me" I wanted to scream! No that was meant to last until the next paid day you *#$@&. But my mum was there and she said "Thats alright we can help you until payday" AND then Mrs I don't do anything wrong says "Yes we have to do what we can for them don't we!
I'm so annoyed she never accepts blame but loves to make little comments to her son about how horrible I am just because I don't let her get her way!
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 8:27pm |
Sounds like you and DF need to have a talk, and him to change his PIN 
I'd be phoning her (sometimes it's easier when you don't have to look at them) and asking her for details of what it was spent on, and whatever was not related to moving costs ask for that back. (Like, pay for the trailer but if there's anything else that's a bit off, ask for the money back.) Tell her you still haven't bought groceries this week and about the HP payment that's supposed to go out... or something.
Does your MIL generally not have much to live on? I'm really confused how someone could act/be like that!
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 8:28pm |
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I'd also be getting hubby to change the PIN and NEVER EVER EVER giving her the opportunity to do anything like this again. Imagine if it were after bubs was born and you were left cashless...
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 9:14pm |
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That is a great idea! She doesn't work but FIL does, he doesn't get much though. She expects her other son to pay board when he visits them so I had a feeling of what she would do which is why I told DF not to give her his card. We are definatley going to be changing the number. I don't get why she took it all!! I will be expecting the $20 you get back when you return the trailer!
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Posted: 22 May 2007 at 9:35pm |
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ohhh i would be fuming!!!!
why does she know the pin number??when i get a eftpos card u sign a agreement saying that u will not disclose the number to any one!
lucky that your mum was there though.
i will swap u your mil for mine1!??!??! lol and i will thru in my fil too.
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 6:53am |
my MIL would do that to, thats why no way in hell will she ever see our bank balance cuase if she sees more than $100 in there she'll harp on about how she needs money.
That is extremly inconsiderate of your MIL to do that, your DF needs to change his pin and not give it to his mother. Esp not if shes going to take the whole lot of your money out of your account.
I would ask for it all back, and ask why they hell she needed to take the whole lot out.
Just lucky your mum was able to help, my mum wouldve prob strangled my MIL if she did that to us lol save me the job 
Hope it all sorts out for you and you get your money back.
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 9:57am |
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How awful! What does your man say about this? Could you get him to talk to her/his dad to try and get the money back? Or at least the $20 and whatever wasn't spent on the trailer. He could make a point of saying "NO the money wasn't all for you as we didn't know you'd be needing any when you made the offer to help us move and next time could you please tell us what expenses there will be beforehand as we aren't in a position......"
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 10:05am |
I just can't believe she would do that, and that your DF hasn't had her up about it. Not good. I agree with the others - get an itemised account of what she spent and DEMAND back the money that was not spent on moving costs. And of course the trailer bond. You poor things, I feel really bad for you. I hope you get this worked out 
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 10:11am |
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If DH gave out his card to his mum and she went and spent the money from our account I would be absolutely fuming at my DH to go and get whatever is left back. It would be his mum therefore he should deal with her especially when he gave out his card in the first place!
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 10:37am |
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I'd actually say that it would be better if you dealt with her than DH. Having you rock on up with a bank statement showing what she has taken out (hard evidence) and asking for details of what it was spent on and asking for change should be enough to point out that this really isn't on. DH would be in a tough spot because being his mum, she's likely to ignore anything he says. This way, you're setting yourself up in a dominant position so that she knows who is boss for the next few decades you will have her around. Then DH he either never, ever does it again or you control the card and give him an allowance...
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 10:56am |
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Oh my gosh, if my MIL did this I would ban her from our life. I just can't comprend (sp?) how someone can do that?
DH needs to change his details and keep them to himself. He needs to know that he is there to support you and your baby.
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 11:04am |
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If she organised the trailer without telling you, she should be paying for it! She needs to give back all the money she took out, what a cow!
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 12:44pm |
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Posted: 23 May 2007 at 2:09pm |
 kebakat wrote:
If DH gave out his card to his mum and she went and spent the money from our account I would be absolutely fuming at my DH to go and get whatever is left back. It would be his mum therefore he should deal with her especially when he gave out his card in the first place! |
yep i agree there ...make him accountable too
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