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MissCandice
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Topic: A Year Apart Posted: 15 December 2007 at 4:16pm |
Well i took my first home pregnancy test today because i was in denial.
Its so soon. I know its my own fault but i just didnt expect it to happen so soon and so easy, i mean it took a year for kylah to be conceived.
Does anyone out there have babies a year apart? This one is due the same day as Kylah was. What happens if its born the same day? Kylah will hate sharing her birthday and id like her to have her own special day.
Im really scared now, only because i actually just seen the HPT saying positive.
DF said he didnt want another one, but when i showed him the test he couldnt stop smiling.
ARRRG i hope my MS isnt as bad this time. Im feeling really tired already..
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 4:29pm |
poor you hun. its not going to be easy, but you will survive it. one of my friends had that happen to her, her first born was born 11 december, and her second born was due 1 december. he arrived on 28 november, so ended up with 2 under 1  she isnt finding it easy, but is doing much better than expected.
take as much help as you can get, is all i can offer.
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 5:31pm |
I haven't had a gap that small but I'd strongly recommend that you get into some kind of (IRL) support group where you can get the practical support you will need etc from other mums. As far as tiredness goes, one neat thing about having a young toddler and pregnancy is that both of your sleep and eat needs will be similar - regular and little eating, and regular and lot sleeping  All the best!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:00pm |
some good parenting programmes are out there too - you are both very young and with all the problems you guys seem to have maybe you should look into doing some so you are ready to cope with two kids so close together in your situation
Triple P parenting, and barnardos offer some great programmes.
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:03pm |
The friend that I helped give birth a few weeks ago had her son on her twins first birthday, imagine that, 3 kids in 12 months!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:05pm |
And here i am freaking out about having two a year apart!! Good on her! How is she doing do you know?
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:14pm |
those parenting courses are meant to be fab. was planning to take some myself - in fact got a call about a month ago to say that i was accepted onto the next one....in gisborne. passed on that - bit far to go, but definitely worth enrolling in. I'm going to try and get on one here but would like DH to come with me so we are both on the same page.
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:20pm |
KylahsMum wrote:
And here i am freaking out about having two a year apart!! Good on her! How is she doing do you know? |
She's doing OK, am going to visit on Tues, she's a single mum which is hard, the kids dad is in Melbourne, but she's staying with her parents which means she does get a bit of support with the kids which she really needs atm!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:25pm |
My sis had 3 under one as well - older one was 10 months when the twins were born at 30 weeks. She had a lot of family support for the first few months when she was staying with my family, but once she went back to America it was just her and her husband (no family around). She is older, but I dont think that means much. In fact I think she has made life harder for herself by not getting a good support network around her. She never really leaves the kids with anyone, so my advice would be like the others have said - really try and build up your friends and supports. Most people are more than happy to help out. And you know what? You will cope because you just have to. It will be hard initially but once they are a little bit older they will be great mates. Hope you have a smooth and MS free pregnancy.
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:37pm |
Holy heck Aimee, I reckon that would be even harder having twins second! Two babies are twice as hard as one, at least my friend can pen her twins in while she's feeding the baby. Mind you, now that I think about it, one of the families at MBC has 13 mths between their boy and their twins, eek!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:42pm |
She's a bit of a nut tho, and really does make things harder for herself. She's one of those super-mum types who tries to do everything - the kids (now 2 and 3) go to all sorts of classes and they are always doing crafts at home etc etc. She really needs to give herself a bit of a break...
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:44pm |
Oh so like me lol
NOT! I am the lazy mum!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:46pm |
You cant be lazy you have twins and maya and anothe on the way!! I think thats far from lazy. Hows your MS emma? I really hope i get the good end of the stick this time.. no MS would be great!!!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 7:47pm |
Whatever Emma! You always seem to be out and about, AND you work!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 8:07pm |
Like aimee said, you will cope because you have to and will develop strategies to deal with things. You will have to learn to know when things are getting too much and then make sure you have some support to lean on in those times. It can (and has been) done!
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:52pm |
A girl on another forum has got 7ish months between hers (got preg when bubs was 4 weeks and then had that baby at 28 weeks)
Anyway that wasn't particularly helpful for you Kandice. I don't have that small a gap but things I found helpful were having someone watch baby every now and then in those first few months when your feeling like sh*t, so you can sleep. The middle months are fine you can sleep when baby sleeps and it goes really fast cos your so busy. The last few months you will need someone to look after Kylah every now and then so you can sleep again. Its actually quite convenient having a bump while trying to carry a baby cos you can sit them on the top of it. Beware of the comments you will get on how busy you will be, they used to drive me crazy.
When bubs is born try and get Charles to take as much time as he can off and someone to watch Kylah as often as possible for those first few weeks. Once you get into a wee routine you will be sweet as and since Kylah will more than likely still be having 2 sleeps you might be able to get them both sleeping at the same time so you can rest.
Good luck, you will be fine and on the upside they will be great friends and entertain them selves in a few years and you can catch up on sleep (thats what I tell myself every day  )
and lastly I'd be more than happy to look after Kylah for a few hours every so often when your dying for a break.
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 9:54pm |
Oh yeah and theres thats young mums group in linwood if you ever wanted to come down
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 10:06pm |
im guessing the first few years are gonna be pretty hard but in the long run it will be great. I got preggie with the twins when kobe was only 8 month old which sent me into a panick! Just remember there are quite a few of us on here in chch and you can always call on us when you need to we are more than willing to help (and Vanessa and I are desperate for wee babies to cluck over seeing as ours are growing up so fast)
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Posted: 15 December 2007 at 10:32pm |
I got preggers with Taine when Jake was five months and when Taine was born it was definitely a struggle - but at one glorious point I had them both sleeping for three hours during the day = at the same time. that unforunately didnt last too long. Now however,i forget how hard it was,and now love havcing them both so close. They generally play nicely together, like similar things so they often get combined presents. It will be tough, but you will get through it and get your own ways of getting through the days.
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