Well it’s over.

That's it.

After a huge fight, I am moving out and taking Sam with me. We just can't be together anymore.

I am very upset that it didn't work out, but I just can't keep going on walking on eggshells and being so tense that I can't be myself because I don't want to make him angry.

He says he never wants to be with anyone, he never wanted kids or to settle down and that he just wants to be alone.

I want to get married and have more kids and I should have known it would never be with him, now I have to start all over again.

I don't know what to do. I have no furniture, no house to live in, no nothing. I need to find a place to live, find stuff to put in it, find someway of paying rent and buying food and keeping Sam fed and clean and happy and I just don't know where to start.

He has gone out now and I am sitting here crying because I am so devastated. I still love him and he says he loves me too but it isn't enough to make it work anymore.



Wish me luck. I'll be fine. At least I have a beautiful son.

sorry to hear that. I know it must be pretty scary at the moment but you do need to start planning your future. I have a friend who has recently seperated and I know she gets lots of money from the government, in fact more than me and hubby put together (which is kind of annoying but anyway....)
Is it his house? Do you have to move? Will he not give you some furniture or is it all his?
Good luck

Oh Renee , You poor thing!

I agree with everyone else - Ring WINZ, housing NZ, Sallies etc, try and get all the help you need! And what lizzle said about taking some of the funiture the house - I completly agree - surely he will let you have some stuff, after all Sam is his son as well!

And also make sure you look after yourself as well! You will be in a very emotional place ATM, I hope that you have some Friends or Family close that you can turn to and get some much needed hugs!! I know all the ladies here will be thinking of you and that we will all be sending some (cyber) hugs your way. Wish we were closer and could help you out. BIG HUGS

Renee, I am so sorry it hasn't worked out for you guys. Definitely ring WINZ this morning and get your money/housing situation sorted out asap. And why can't he move and you stay? It would certainly be an easier move for him.
If you need someone to talk to please PM me and I can give you my number .

Thinking of you chick. Big hugs to you and Sam.

oh renee i'm so sorry hun!! i've been where you are (minus a child though) and it really is hard. have you got friends and family near to give you some emotional support? you know you have plenty on here anyway and we are all here for you when you need us

as the other ladies have said, take some of the stuff from the house, you will need it! go see winz asap and they will be able to help you out with lots of things and then go from there.

i think you are a brave lady and i really admire you for making the decision to leave. it's never an easy one but you have to do whats best for sam and yourself! take care hun, and yes, you do have a beautiful son!!! he's adorable

So sorry to hear this babe.

I think everyone else has summed it up with ringing WINZ etc. Hopefully too you have family and friends nearby who can help you out.

I'd also be checking out the legal obligations of the father. Just because he didn't want it doesn't mean he's not now responsible!

Oh renee i am so sorry to read this news. big hugs to you and sam and i hope things work out for you.

I dont know what to add either, but if there is any way we can help, let us know.

Renne! I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I'm just down the road so please let me know if there is anything I can do for you xx

Thank you guys for everything, I am so shattered this morning after having next to no sleep.

I've got my mum and my two nanas and my dad close by so I have heaps of family support.

I am definitely going to ring Winz and see what I can do. I can't really afford to live here as the rent is just too much. I will be taking the little furniture that is mine, and as I look around, quite a lot of it is mine and he is willing to give me most of the rest.

He came home last night and we agreed that it would be really hard for me to go right now as Sam is so little and we have just bought a business so things need to be sorted before I can go. It will be a couple of months at the least before anything can go ahead. He has said he will be very good and help us out as much as he can finding us a place and buying groceries and looking after Sam.

He confessed that he is deeply troubled and that he cannot feel anything, and he doesn't know how to be emotional and he just can't be a happy person.

I am a happy person and I want someone who is equally happy.

My sister is having her baby today so I will be up at the hospital trying not to fall asleep I think.

He says he loves Sam very very much and he loves me too and he is so glad that I am his mother because he thinks I am doing a wonderful job and he will always love me for being the mother of his child.

I actually got some meaningful talking done with him last night but I am definitely moving out.

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and well wishes.

I just don't know what to say right now.