Pretty mad right now!

Awww Esselle you're right it is a very emotional time (I've had one too.) Everyone deals with m/c differently so you can be sure that no one has meant offence or more grief for you. If you want it back on, just go back into the list and get it put back on, but you may want to reconsider: at your due date, you could get a lot of new/uninformed people asking whether you've had your baby yet and that could be even harder to take.

What about an "in rememberance" thread? Would that be a nicer way to have your baby remembered?

I was relieved to have mine taken off there, sad, but releived that i didn't have to ask to have it taken away which is probably what they were trying to save you from doing. Soo hear you about the darn hormones and waiting to miscarryy.. i waited a couple of weeks before going to have D&C.
I left my due date on my profile for the longest time before taking it off as it was actuallyupsetting me aftera while to know how far i should be. although when ihave a bad day, to log on and see something saying "you have 2 children" when i feel that i have 3, sucks just a little.

Teresa a rememberance thread was something that I had been thinking about starting up actually, funny you should mention it, I know Emma told me about another site she goes to where they have something similar, maybe the idea should be run past her? i think it's a nice way for some to remember, even if they want to forget sometimes it's nice to have other's remember too

Have emailed the person in question and they have told me "That's fine you can be offended" and I have to wait for Emma to have her say I don't really see why it is a problem for me to remain on the list. I can understand why people would choose not to be on there but my grieving will be just as different as everyone else's.
Maybe it would have helped if I had been asked first? I am sure people dislike it when I am presumptuous by assuming that this was done in ignorance and thoughtlessness. Surely being notified would of not been too much of a hardship?

I should have changed the title of this topic to I am so sad/ let down right now, because I am not really angry, just sad.

Good on you, that's exactly what I was about to suggest.

Esselle wrote: Have emailed the person in question and they have told me "That's fine you can be offended" and I have to wait for Emma to have her say I don't really see why it is a problem for me to remain on the list.

well that is just down right rude and plain ignorant of your feelings!! that makes me mad no one 'owns' the dd list so it's open to who ever. good on you for putting your name back up....and big to you

OK, I'm getting splinters in my butt (again) from being perched up on this fence, so I'll say this: I can understand *why* your due date was taken off, but I do think it could have been handled in a more sensitive way.

For me personally, I wouldn't have WANTED to see my due date stay on the list as a constant reminder of my loss, and of everyone else who hadn't lost their babies. But I accept that everyone deals with grief in different ways, and maybe this is cathartic for you. Janine is right that there is a site The Lost Ones that has a Candle page for remembering lost angels. Both of mine are there, and I still shed a tear or two when I go and 'visit' them.

Bottom line: I don't think that the Due Date list is an appropriate place to remember our angels, I think that isn't fair to us to have to remember our angels alongside everyone else's growing babies, and I think it's not fair on those who haven't miscarried, the Due Date list has become a special place for them.

I am happy to sticky the Rememberence thread that Teresa started, and to format it the same as the Due Date list so that it is a special place where we can remember the little ones who briefly touched our lives and left such a lasting pain.

That said, I am not about to remove anybody's due dates from the Due Date list, miscarried or otherwise, I think that is a decision that you individually need to make.

Well there has been no time to wait around for the D&C to be booked. I got the fright of my life as I miscarried this afternoon.
I pray to God that I never have to go through this again.