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Bombshell 
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:14pm |
From the other thread....
To join you must work (as in be paid for what you do!!!) fulltime (say 30 hours or more) outside of the home...or run a business etc from home....
sooooo who on here is a member....and how guilty do you feel that your kids are in care while you work....
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Bombshell....slight pangs of guilt from time to time! 
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Sarah Beth
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:25pm |
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Sarah Beth... not too guilty now Jack has settled in there but miss him terribly
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Millie1976
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:30pm |
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I only work 20 hours per week and feel guilty even though it was by choice to go back to work and so far I haven't had much luck with Ollie being in daycare - infact he has been out more than in so hopefully that will get better! I had to leave work 2 hours early today to pick him up from daycare as he was apparently rubbing at his ear and they thought he had an ear infection. I turn up and of course he seems happy as larry to see me and I am not sure whether he has a sore ear after all - going to the docs to make sure though
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:32pm |
I don't qualify yet but will in the next couple of weeks. Will reapply for membership then  
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:33pm |
Katherine -- no guilt any more (thank you, women's movement!).
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 3:35pm |
Me too, I'll be a member in January  !
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 4:11pm |
Ok in a way I can be a member. I won't be working but i'll be a full time studying mum on campus at Massey so both my boys will be in full time care.
When Andrew first went into care at 5 months I felt so guilty but over time got over it as he enjoyed himself so much there.
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 5:03pm |
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I work outside the home but only 10 hours BUT I sometimes qualify as I work extra hours and next weeks I am doing full time (40 hours)
I think we all feel guilty if we do or don't. I choose to work (didn't have to for the money) I knwo I need to get out and work so I don;t feel guilty at all. (or maybe just alittle)
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 6:28pm |
yummymummy (I work 32 hours a week) - I feel slightly guilty but figure quality counts for more than quantity when it comes to spending time with bubs. I also feel slightly guilty for having another on the way 
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 6:46pm |
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rubydooby - currently doing about 30 hours per week but will go up to over 40 as of January. Feel REALLY guilty! But Brenna loves being with her nanas
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caitlynsmygirl
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:30pm |
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ooh yay a club i can join!
tho i dont feel that much guilt, only when i walk c to school and shes clingy and i have to hurry off cos i need to get to work, then i feel guilt, i've been working since she was 6months old, and have kinda gotten used to it-sometimes i'll go for a couple of hours without thinking about her.....hmm NOW i feel guilty lol
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:39pm |
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Me - can i join?
Paris has been in care since 11mths, Ayja started at 11 weeks, i found it really hard when ayja was a baby, my heart broke each time i left her there.
I now work 32 hours a week, with a fair amount of them spent during afternoons so am not always there to tuck them in at night which i find hard. I have times when i go and feel so bad especially if i come home and they've hurt themselves that day. and i always hate it at night, always. I dunno why, i just hate the fact that i'm not there while they sleep at night.
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:55pm |
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Me - four days a week but lots of hours done at home once the kids are in bed.
Not much guilt...but they have been at daycare since four months
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 7:59pm |
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I've just been filling in the forms for day care grrr, I was planning on going back for four days a week and incredibly it's more expensive to pay for four days than five. So am enrolling her for the five days and will just keep her off one day a week.
I'll be joining you in April but have been there before with both the other two so can sympathise with the guilt thing. It's harder when they are just little but once they went to school I was fine.
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:17pm |
yeah us Feb and march mummies are real workers....that is funny that i think all in our thread on there are back to or about to go back to work....
Kelly - yeah had to create our own club but hey why not huh?
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:21pm |
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why not indeed! i love clubs, the last club i was in was the Georgie Pie kids club
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:33pm |
LOL!!!
Isnt it strange how we feel varying degrees of guilt tho....I walked out this morning from DC and thought bad cause i gave Ella a quick kiss and left...other mornings i spend heaps of time there....
and then it gets closer 5pm and i think OMG i have a baby....and ive gotta go get her...and then feel slight guilt for not thinking about her all day long.... 
Maybe its cause she is in a safe place, or that they adore her....but then i tend to savour our weekends and feel guilt on monday when i cant wait to hand her over again...and she breathes a somewhat sigh of relief when she gets to DC!
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 8:36pm |
 Bombshell wrote:
....but then i tend to savour our weekends and feel guilt on monday when i cant wait to hand her over again...and she breathes a somewhat sigh of relief when she gets to DC! |
That was so me for a while with Andrew when he first started DC.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:14pm |
Ooo can I join, I work 3days per week and Alize is starting in DC next Monday and Im still shocked at the price for DC But its a great place and I feel absolutely fine with leaving him there. I am looking forward to him learning to be more social with Adults as he is already social with other bubbas since staying at the chubbles for a week.
As for guilt... It was definitely there when I started but now I find it more of a rest having 3days off from him lol I am going to up his hours next year tho and prob sell a kidney to have to pay for it as I wil be doing a postgrad degree which is part of my job but am expected to study outside of work hours.....
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Posted: 29 November 2007 at 9:20pm |
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Danni I will be joining as of next Friday I will be doing 25-30hrs I got a job interview on Monday and if I don't get I'm going to go back to Night Shift were I was working before I had James.
I feel guilty as James hasn't really been away from me for more than a couple of hours so it's more hanging on to me but what makes me feel a bit better about it is that I think he would get a lot of stimulation from it as I think he is starting to get a bit bored of me now.
If I get the job that I have interview for he will be in full time but if I go back to night shift he will be in there for 3 mornings a week.
Sorry for the ramble.
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