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Well, we are having such drama with JJ sleeping at the mo. Janine had a similar thread a while ago about Ayja, so I am guesing it is part age, part teething, part heat and part Xmas routine muck ups that is doing it, but I am like the walking dead. I have been getting by on about 3 1/2 hours of sleep a night. Anyhow, we are doing the dad gets up during the night thing that plunket suggested, and Jacob DEF doesn't carry on as much after he puts him back down as he does when I do, but after 4 nights of this (last night was bad)hubby has had enough, and has told me I have to get up to him as he is "tired". (because, obviously, having not had a full nights sleep in, I dunno, NINE months, I'm not..)oh, and he has to "work". (because, clearly, having a job AND looking after a home and baby, save from the 20 minutes he plays with him after work, I don't work) Anyhow, almighty rows ensued at 2.30am when he drops this bomb, ending with me sleeping in the spare room, calling him a selfish pr@ck, and no more sleep last night. At lunchtime, he still feels the same way. Apparently, I "handle" it better. Thing is I don't. I am at the end of my rope. My concentration is nil, and I am starting to get angry and resentful of Jacob. I lvoe this little boy with my dying breath, but how on earth am I going to do this resettle thing in the midle of the night on my own? I am starting to feel like if i am raising JJ on my own, then I may as well be on my own, In my own place doing it my own way. I do feel like leaving (was plotting escape at 4am this morn..) Obviously Jake sees no point crying for long when he goes in as there is no milk to smell, but it is confusing for him when i go in and resettle a few times and then to feed around 4,30am, he just gets the idea that if he cries enuff, i will give in. Hubby can't see that. Any ideas on this settleing thing????

Sorry for vent and Novel, but you ladies are a wealth of information!!

srooy i,m no help(i,m on my own) could u leave bubs too cry (easer said then done )maybe then he ((your man) will get p@@@@@@@ off anuff and go and do it i no how u8 feel with the no sleep my boys 7 months old now and still gets up for 1 bottle a night sometimes 2 i hope things get easer sorry i,m not one too pull any punches with men

Sorry to hear how things are going at the mometn Annie. I dont have any ideas either sorry cos I'm too new at this as well, but day sleeps sound like a good idea - bugger the housework, your sanity (and relationship) much more important. Hope things improve soon.

Oh man...and here I am wishing Brooke was older thinking it gets easier........maybe you go to library and get loads of books(baby whisperer,oh baby,contented little baby book etc) and read up on all the info bout sleep probs and solutions and try find one that could suit you??????I was told yesterday that Babywise by Ezzo&Bucknan is a really great book.....I understand the stress these probs can cause in your relationship...we been having the same.....Went for few days thinking my husband was a real arsehole.felt he was critical and not supportive at all...think in truth it was bit of that but I was just very emotionally stressed.It sux but at end of day it really does feel that like a baby is mainly the mothers responsibility eh.....I not sure what else to say but if you want I could give you my ph num and you could ph me when you having real crap time and really let it all vent!!!!Even during night cause I prob up too

Well Im of to bed...I really hope that things get better...maybe tonight???????I'll cross my fingers for you.....oneday we will all look back and laugh and think" was it really that bad"............amazing how ya mind makes you forget the hard parts........

try telling him - if he thinks you cope better, tell him exactly what you told us - you're not! sometimes that is enough to make them realise we aren't super mums, we get just as stressed out. and with the not doing anything round the house... if he's itred, then maybe he should stop and realise that you are too - and remember that if he helps you out, then you can BOTH sit down TOGETHER... instead of being tired grumpy and snotty with each other. sounds good in theory - just depends on how much actually sinks in though......

maybe you could show him your posts in here?? i think someone has done that here before and it got through to the hubby
sorry i'm not much help, but hope things improve for you soon!

lol, Peter told me when we were at home TOGETHER after xmas for 10 days that he didn't realise how tough it was!

He suggested the roster thing the other day too, I think he doesn't want me to feel obligated to do everything myself becaise I often feel guilty if he comes home and I haven't done everything that day!

Ok. Update. Thanks ladies for all your support and help. I feel like such a heel coming on here and baging Rod. He is a great Dad, but I guess men just don't think like we do. I managed to talk him into sticking out the re settleing thing for a bit longer, and I have tweaked Jakes routine a little. he seems to sleep for about 5 or 6 hours then wakes up every hour after that, so I have made his day sleeps later and his bed time later. So last night instead of waking at 12am or 1am last night it was 2.30am then 3am, and asleep till 4.30 at which point I got up to feed him. THe 3am was only cos he dropped teddy...
I discussed the roster idea with him, but he was WWWAAAYYYY to into that, and in my minds eye, I could see all the jobs I really hate (and try to ignore) ending up on there....
He looked after Jake for 2 weeks over christmas whikle he was off, and enjoyed it, Jake was good, and they bonded well. He even said to me how hard it is to get things done sometimes... although i think he may have forgotten that...
We will battle on....
Thanks for letting me vent, girls..

Thanks!