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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 11:44am |
Does anyone else find it totally infuriating and hard to keep your cool when people argue with you as to why thier advice is better??
I don't mind getting advice but I don't think I particularly like the feeling of it being rammed down the throat...
This particular incident began because I said yes we are going to find out what the gender is...it's our preference...some people don't want to find out when they are pregnant and that's fine too...just not our choice.
So why do people feel the need to argue with you as to why you MUST NOT find out?? Must Not?? MUST NOT?? Since do others get to tell me what I MUST NOT do?? 
If I'm not endangering my child I'll make whatever choices I sodding want! I'm dreading what else they will come up with in the coming months!
Right rant over.
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 11:59am |
Oh i TOTALLY KNOW!!!!!!!!!! its makes me sooo mad but i turn around and say finding out the sex isnt the surprise for me its finding out what the baby looks like when its born, etc etc
Its gets worse when you start to decide on names lol people are so rude and critical 
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:00pm |
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And that's why we are not coughing up our names! (yes we have favourites that we have talked about for some time before we were pregnant and no one is knowing them!)
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:03pm |
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Yep im just saying that we are choosing a bunch of names but not deciding until baby is born, and if they ask i say NEH! lol
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:30pm |
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Very wise idea chicks! I made the stupid mistake of including my MIL in on our thoughts on names - talk about opinionated!! Every single name was thrown back at us, and now I'm so mad with her (for other things as well but thats a whole other story!!) and I'm not going to see her again til she apologises for upsetting me. Keep it all to yourselves and remember - it's YOUR baby, and you can make whatever decisions you think are best without ANY consultation with anyone else!!
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:30pm |
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And it doesnt stop once baby is born unfortunately...
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:37pm |
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we had lots off opinions on whether or not we should find out the sex of our baby, and i bascially just said to them, its our choice not theirs, and if they dont want to know what the sex is then dont ask...that normally always got them going... "Oh no we want to know"
As for the name of the baby, people have asked and we have told them, but no one has had an opinion either way.
I have actually found that people having opinions is not the worst, its when complete strangers come up to me and go oh your pregnant and then proceed to touch my stomach, and being the type of person i am i dont tolerate that very well, and i actually say to them to please stop touching and to step back out of my personal space. for some reason complete strangers seem to think its there right to touch and tell you whats best for you..
oh well thats my rant...lol
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 12:59pm |
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Oh im so investing in a shirt that says "DONT TOUCH ME" or "DONT TOUCH THE BUMP" lol i found a cool american site that does heaps of them incl "If you think my mum is cute wait till you see me" or something like that lol
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 1:03pm |
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Besides, most people find out the sex these days anyways. I don't get what the big deal is! Trying to buy everything in white, yellow and green is a mission as there is so little nice unisex stuff out there.
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 1:04pm |
 OMG Kazzle - you have complete strangers gropping at your belly?!?!? I would have to reply to them by proceding to grope their butts... and when they question your actions just say "oh it was sticking out too, so I thought I'd return the gesture - you can get meds for that rash ya know"  Or do I just have a warped sense of humour?!?! hee hee
Paws - we've decided that we want to find out what flavour bun is in the oven too and when people question our decision I just say that I would rather refer to my child by it's name, and not "it" so there! lol
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 1:16pm |
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That is something I said....i hate saying "it" or tongue twisting myself saying "the baby"...I would love to be able to say he or she even if we are not 100% decided on the name yet...
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 1:55pm |
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You guys still get a suprise about the sex, just a little earlier than otherwise!
My best advice (oooo, more of what you don't need!) is to just ignore people like that. They can't really argue when you have nothing to say to them!
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 2:18pm |
iagree with nicki ignore them who r they anyway i use to get people up and rubbing my tummy and i just use to walk away i just couldnt be bothed saying anything and when people ask what name i chosses they had a oppion about that aswell i just use too say its my body and my baby and my desion
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 2:19pm |
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Acutally that is good advice! I might even put that one in my pregnacy journal! (got a really nice Anne Geddes one).
And it works....I stopped talking to them and it all wore off.
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 2:41pm |
Give them something to play with and it will take their minds off it lol just like cats and kids
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 2:59pm |
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ARGH!! Complete strangers touching your belly!! I used toget that too, shop assistants even?! How rude!! I don't try to feel your boobs!
That used to serious get on my nerves!! And I used to find complete strangers would practically corner me to find out details: 'when are you due?' and 'oh really? your HUGE!!!'.
And another thing thatused to get on my nerves re finding out the sex: we did but andy's parents didn't want to know. That is fine but I hated having to remember that I couldn't refer to Quinn as 'he' while they were there. Just a small niggle but it was so hard on my poor preggy brain! And then when I was about eight months it slipped out in front of his mother and sister and they were sooooo disappointed!! Not that he was a boy but that it wasn't a surprise!!
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 3:03pm |
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I never got people touching my belly. Maybe I had that psycho pregnant lady look about me?
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 3:11pm |
If you did can you teach it to the rest of us?
Funny things is I offered not to tell them the sex but they all want to know if I know!
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 3:25pm |
i think the only way to deal with it is to tell people no dont touch me or bump just before they do they might get effored but its your body and your baby and they can rub your belly if they ask
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Posted: 24 January 2006 at 3:38pm |
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I wish i had had the psycho pregnant lady look about me, because it used to really annoy me when complete strangers rubbed my bump. I am a big one for personal space, even my partner used to ask if he could touch bump. When preggy xanda was just known as bump because we did not find out the sex, but that was my decision as i wanted to be surprised. The lady who did the scan wrote it down and put it in an envelope and my partner had a look 3wks before Xanda was born, but that was his decision and i let him because it his baby as well. I figured he could keep it secret for 3wks and not let it slip to me.
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