Is what i’m feeling normal?

I’m wondering if I’m alone in my feelings at the moment.

I have so been looking forward to being pregnant but now that it is here I feel almost ashamed to say that I am not enjoying it very much! I have found the morning sickness and tiredness harder to cope with than I thought.

So many people say to me “oh you must be glowing” and “over the moon” and yes we are excited but right now I can’t honestly say I’m enjoying it. Part of me is almost a little worried that I may not enjoy it at all!!

I also find it hard because sometimes I just want someone to give me a *gentle* hug and tell me it will be fine instead of telling me to “buck up” and get used to it all. Bottom line is I still feel awful at the moment! I felt bad taking yesterday off even though I felt awful because some people make me feel like I do just have to “deal with it” because being pregnant is what I wanted.

As I say, don’t get me wrong because we really want this baby.

I know part of what I’m feeling is probably hormones but I’m wondering if others have felt this way at first…part of me does feel like a whining madam!

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i found the first 12-15wks really hard too. i felt sick only from 10-12wks but it was the incredible tiredness i couldn't deal with! i've never been so tired in all my life! but.....
it did get better and once i could feel jack moving inside me (18wks) i really started to enjoy being pregnant....then it was all over too soon
i'm sure many of us have felt the same way, just try to remind yourself it's not for too long.

i hated bing preggy from the word go i had only a little felling sick but i did have spoting about nine times though out with james so its tottly norm but its so worth it i wouldnt trade james for the world just try to remember its all worth it big hugss (but very gentleZ)

yeah i found the first 12 weeks the worst it does get beta

Well I must be one of those people who hated being pregnant the entire time. The first three months I was sick all the time, throwing up about 3 times a day and paranoid about miscarriage. The second three months I was still sick all the time, got symphisis pubis dysfunction and wwas paranoid about premature delivery. the last three months I was STILL sick all the time, didn't sleep, suffered in the summer heat, fainted from low blood pressure and worried about my baby dying in labour or at birth.

And the minute she was born I would have done it all again in a heartbeat.

Hang in there Paws - even if you are one of the unlucky ones who is sick the whole way thru, it doesn't last forever, and the reward is well worth the suffering!

I second what everyone else has said - and also warn you that closer to actually having baby, you may feel the same again, and also may start to really wonder what on earth you are doing, thinking you can't possibly take this on,.. just know it's all normal and you can always come here for some support.

I'm not enjoying pregnancy, and I started to feel guilty about it until a friend of mine pointed out that it's difficult to feel enrapatured by constant vomiting, extreme tiredness, feeling like greenpeace is going to be knocking on your door looking for the beached whale.... I know once my baby arrives it will all fade into a distant memory, but right now I just wish it would hurry up and be over!

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Im not particularly enjoying it either. But i cant wait for my baby to be born! Im 20wks so its not so bad at the moment. But I've been warned that its going to get hard again toward the end. I know what you mean paws about everyone telling me how great i must feel and how excited i must be. Which i am, but after the 100th person as just said it its hard to work up the enthusasiam and then i feel a bit bad for not being as excited as i should be. But im sure it will be over before we know it.

James - high hormone levels do contribute to bad morning sickness, and healthy pregnancies tend to have high levels, but it's not an accurate guide of whether or not bubs is healthy because in many pregnancies which result in miscarriage the hormone levels climb normally until around 8-10 weeks, sometimes even longer.

Wohooo!! I don't know what speed the heart was beating but it was seen during my six week scan...so that's a good thing at least!