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mummy_becks
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Topic: Swearing Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:24pm |
I am at my wits end with Andrew and his foul language.
His latet word is F*%K and will scream it at the top of his lungs when we are out - terribley embarrassing.
I have tried ignoring it hoping that it would go away but that seems to make it worse.
I don't know what else to do about it now and its driving me nuts (well more nuts)
Any ideas??
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FionaS
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:33pm |
Does he hear it at home at all?
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:33pm |
hehe, nup Braedons latest is holy sh*t!! a little bit better than what Andrew is saying but still not acceptable from a 4 year old.
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mummy_becks
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 6:47pm |
FionaS wrote:
Does he hear it at home at all? |
There maybe the odd time it has been said here, but he hasnt been around. I think he's gotten it from his old daycare.
Now to work out how to get it out of him.
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:04pm |
Yeah I was a bit shocked hearing him say "f*ck f*ck f*uckers" at my house.
My mum thought that it might be him wanting special attention.. which is why he does it more when you're ignoring him.
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:18pm |
I used to get soap or mustard on the tongue for swearing.
I suspect your not allowed to do that to your kids anymore.
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:22pm |
lol we use to get way worse than mustard.. we got the belt on our asses. Only swore once at my parents at that age and never did it again until I was a teen.. but you can get locked up for that now
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:27pm |
Isn't it amazing how they can pick the one "Bad" word out of a conversation and repeat it. I figure it's because we emphasize those words so they stand out more.
My girls were the first children in DH's family and he has 4 younger brothers and they had real potty mouths even when I ask them not to swear around the girls, so my girls swore like troopers.
We would say to them "we don't use those words as they are not nice". Or "please don't say that word" anything along those lines and it did eventually work.
Funnily enough now all of my BIL's have kids they no longer swear
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:29pm |
Ella went through a really brief phase of swearing, I used to just boomerang her to the corner, no warning or telling off or anything (other than "in this family we don't use those words"), every time she did it.
Worked for us!
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:48pm |
I was going to suggest what CaraMel said - a no-tolerance approach.
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 7:56pm |
Caitlyn picked up some bad words at kindy, everytime she swore I would just calmly say "we dont use words like that here hun" and move on, the more they get a reaction,the more they will do it,its also the shock factor they enjoy.
But once they start socialising with other kids they are bound to pick up a few bad words.
If its cos he thinks hes getting attention by swearing,just dont give much of a reaction but make a big deal whenever he uses his manners or says something nice to someone
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 8:06pm |
Seb started saying "oh sh*t" a couple of months ago. He heard his grandad say it once, and off he went... we basically had to ignore it till he stopped, as he's too young to discipline properly for something like that. He's slowly gone from saying it once every 20 seconds to maybe a couple of times a day at the most. (and I think it's blending with his other words - mainly "sat?" for what's this and "chat" for cat)
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 9:49pm |
My mum used to make us put soap in our mouths-so my brother and i ate a little soap each day and didn't mind the taste any more, she also wacked us with the wooden spoon until one day my brother turned around , grabbed it put it over his knee and snapped it in two, ahhh we thought it was so funny-til she got the spatula out
sorry, off topic there!
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:06pm |
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:09pm |
Heh, I remember swearing when I was a kid, and we got FAR worse than a wooden spoon (jug cord) Never hurt me in the long run - learned VERY quickly not to swear in front of parents :P I was one of those kids that time out and naughty corner and all that other crap didnt work for.
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Posted: 12 March 2008 at 10:57pm |
Sorry I didn't read the rest of the posts but we are terrible swearers around here and Hannah is now the 'Swearing Police'
I just told her that they are words that people say when they are angry and that they shouldn't actually be used and are 'naughty' - and then I gave her a mandate to tell me off if she heard me swearing. Seems to prevent her from doing it for the most part! If I do catch her then she knows that she goes to time out straight away.
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Posted: 13 March 2008 at 9:28am |
Hunter was swearing a lot, we tried telling him off then ignoring him and it seems to work, still slips up every so often. Doesn't help when older kids laugh at him. Have found that every day he says it less.
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Posted: 13 March 2008 at 9:38am |
No suggesstions here, buatit has started very young in our house. I don't think Fay was one, i got cut up at a junction and said something like " Oh my goodness what a silly man", turned round to look at Fay and she was going "Ffffffff, ffffffff" at me and laughing at me in her "how clever am I" way.
Neil keeps saying it sounds like she is trying to say feck, wonder where she heard that
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Posted: 13 March 2008 at 10:31am |
nikkiwhyte wrote:
Sorry I didn't read the rest of the posts but we are terrible swearers around here and Hannah is now the 'Swearing Police'
I just told her that they are words that people say when they are angry and that they shouldn't actually be used and are 'naughty' - and then I gave her a mandate to tell me off if she heard me swearing. Seems to prevent her from doing it for the most part! If I do catch her then she knows that she goes to time out straight away. |
Hehehahaha. Sorry I just got a picture of Hannah just staring at you, pointing to your room and tapping her feet while you go slinking off to the naughty corner or timeout.
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Posted: 13 March 2008 at 12:36pm |
actually , that could be an idea-if you talk to him about bad words and then ask if he would like to be a "bad word policeman" or something and watch for when people use bad words it might make him more interested in not swearing.
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