How can I help?

I'm worried about a guy friend of mine and I was wanting to see if anyone had any ideas on how I can help him..

He's an army dude, so tries to hide away to be macho and get on with things and he's so freakin stubborn when it comes to help..

At the start of the year he realised that his relationship of 2 yrs wasn't working out for him. He wasn't totally committed to her and felt like something was missing so after a month of feeling miserable he told her it was over and she moved out.

He's quite the sensitive guy so felt sooooo much guilt over making her feel bad and all that.

Since then he was chatting with a chick online and they both got close to each other but that hasn't worked out the way he wanted it to and it looks as though they won't even get to meet.

I can tell that he is depressed because..
- he doesn't sleep
- when he sleeps he says its really crap
- hes sleeping on his couch rather than his bed because he said his bed is too big for one person
- he doesnt have an apetite so doesnt eat hardly anything
- hes lost 5kg over the past few weeks
- hes not socialising (he use to go to army parties most weekends)
- hes not smiley (this is extremely weird for him)

Last night I went over to his house because he asked me to. It was obvious he had used clear eyes to hide the fact he had been crying. He was just so down. He's hurting himself at work because he can't concentrate cause he's so tired so his body is basically just packing up. I'm worried about him because he's going into the field to do some crazy ass stuff and he kept saying that the field will sort him out. But I know he's going to come back with some sort of injury.

It's total bollocks. He won't accept help. I know he won't do anything totally dumb like purposfully hurt himself but I don't think that his body and mind can deal with all this by himself.

I've tried offering him natural sleeping remedies and even offered to give him one of my sleeping pills (prescription stuff) just so he can get one good nights sleep but he just says it will sort itself out and refuses any suggestion I have.

The only thing I've succeeded in so far as far as help goes is giving him hugs but that's never going to be enough to help him out of this hole.

Any ideas at all?

I don't think that speech will do anything in all honesty. He would just go into his own little world and be completely by himself. I told him I was tempted to spike his drink with a sleeping pill the other night when he had dinner with me - I wouldn't actually even if it was tempting!

Yeah hard one alright. He chould suck it up and speak to his Staff Sergent that is in charge of him to go on light duties for a few days as he is not in the right head space at the moment.

You could always tell him I feel the same way in a way as Nigel is in Waiouru and I am here all by myself and struggling but I just suck it up some days and deal with it - there are the odd days I don't but we are all entitled to those days.