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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 9:44pm |
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 9:53pm |
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Sorry to hear you are feeling down. I think being a single mum would be so so hard and really take my hat of to you. My day seems so long until hubby gets home, I couldnt imagine not having the option to just leave Kobe with him and have two minutes to myself. Just keep saying to yourself you are doing a great job and its ok to cry, we all do it. Not much help sorry but thinking of you!
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 9:55pm |
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Good on you Lu for being so strong. I'm a solo mum at the moment, as in, Lewis is away for another six weeks, but unlike you, I'm living with mum and at least if I'm feeling like sh*t, I can palm the kids onto her. I have no idea how solo mums cope!!!
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 10:48pm |
hes in bed now thank god i still feel lik cr#p but at least hes sleeping 
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 10:59pm |
Im a single mum too Lu (hey that rhymed) so i have an idea about what ur going thru...
It does get easier tho,u work out what works and what doesnt and things get more bearable.
Just focus on taking each day as it comes, you'll be right 
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 11:13pm |
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Go get some sleep Lu! I think you deserve it. Make the most of the time that he is asleep and get some for yourself. I admire you for what you are doing, I don't think I would ever cope.
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Posted: 10 March 2006 at 11:20pm |
You have my respect to Lu. I struggle through a lot of days and I at least have Peter come home in the evening to let me complain to. Keep doing the wonderful job that you are with your lovely boy! 
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 7:38am |
Big hugs Lu . Like everyone else has said your a great mum, and your doing a wonderful job!
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james
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 9:43am |
thanks guys james is off on aroad trip with nan nan and grandad yay for me
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:03am |
lu 
make the most of your alone time and get some rest, you deserve it!
jack has been sick for 3wks now, seems to be one thing after another. had a cold, then heat rash, then hand/foot/mouth, now he has another cold!! 
he's constantly crying and i don't know what to do for him 
i am in awe of you! you are doing such an amazing job! 
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:05am |
I dont know how you do it either Lu, I really take my hat off to single mums. Make the most of your free day - catch up on some sleep, do something you want to do and NO HOUSEWORK!!
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james
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:09am |
yay i not doing any house work and am feeling better it just seems to pile on top of u and u need to vent thats why i love ohbaby can say things on here and not feel like a tottal rat
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:25am |
i no why i feel like cr@@ its because i keepgoing over his brith and because i counld,nt give brith to him nautrally i feel like i have failed him i no it sounds silly but thats how i feel (oh i never told any one this )
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 10:49am |
YOU DID NOT FAIL HIM LU!!!!!!!!!
He arrived safely and in one piece, and that means you were successful! Please, please, don't be too hard on yourself about something that was out of your control... all that matters is that James was born in a manner that ensured he arrived safely.
Big hugs, Lu
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 11:44am |
As Becca said Lu, you did not fail him. As my friend said who had a c - section ... The babies that are too impaitent to come out - the mum's have to get them out another way, it is no reflection on how the mother is (good / bad) as having a baby safe and healthy in your arms is the biggest reward.
Rant all you want, vent all you want we are here for you as your sounding board and I want you to know that Single mums are the best, you have to plod along on your own until some support comes and helps out. Not like "dads" who are there at the same time every day (mostly!)
Sorry for the ramble
*hugs* *hugs*
Keep up the good work darl!! 
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 1:44pm |
We women are strange creatures arent we? I still have negative feelings about Hannahs birth - even tho i did have her naturally, I feel I didnt 'perform' very well. But the main thing is that they arrived healthy and happy, and you are doing a great job now
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 1:49pm |
thank u guys i no i am being hard on myself as i had a emegry c-section and his brith was very turmatic for ma and my family trying not to be so hard on my self
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 3:19pm |
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Lu, i to had an emergency c-section and am still getting over the feeling of letting everyone down, but i feel i let myself down the most. I know i shouldn't feel that way as there is nothing I could of done to prevent having a c-section. Also because all of our friends and my partners family were waiting outside in the waiting room for 19hours and then I didn't even have a natural birth. But as they all have said, no matter how you gave birth you have a beautiful baby boy who adores you and probably doesn't even mind how he was born. I think he is very lucky to have you as a mum!!
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Posted: 11 March 2006 at 3:47pm |
ok u going make me cry i had one as my hips dont move my hole pelvis is rigid if its not to personal why did u have a c-section 
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