what would you do?

i would have dont the same thing i dont think mcd's is the rite place to bring a new born

I would of told them that it was cold and maybe baby would like a blanket and not just suggested it was cold. But agree with Meow, no worse than supermarket or anything in regards to germs.

do u think she was a first time mum

Yeah that is so true Robyn. I was so scared of doing something wrong when I had Xanda that I packed up all my stuff on my first night home from hospital and went home to my mum. Stayed there for three weeks and hardly left the house or the farm.

I agree for a first time mum it can be hard - this is coming from me - who hardly left the house, AT ALL. but, i think there is a big difference between well-meaning comments and ones that are nasty.. and Deb - yours seems like it was well meaning and not nasty or unreasonable. Even being the very self-conscious person that i am - receiving a comment like that wouldn't make me angry i don't think - maybe a little miffed that you had pointed out something i had possibly overlooked, but nothing more.

I disagree that most people would go to your house if they wanted to meet baby. sometimes it doesn't matter where you go you just wanna get out of the house and meet anyone ANYWHERE! And how many times have you possibly had just THE CUTEST outfit you wanted to put baby in to show them off, but know that by the time it's the right season, baby will have outgrown it, or whatever. So i can see how, being a new mum possibly - and very proud and eager to show off new baby in the cutest outfit - this mum could have overlooked that it was a little chilly.

I would probably have done the same thing as you Deb. Just possibly said how cold it was today, what a cute outfit the baby had, but how lucky she had a blanket with her!!

mcdees isn't that bad a place, i think supermarkets are probly way dirtier! but i don't think its that bad to say something if you think bubs is cold. like the others said, its all in the way you say it. i burst into tears after going to visit a friend up the road. she was staying with an older lady and the first thing she said was "this baby should have more clothes on!" i'd bundled her up so much cos it was winter, that when we got there she was too warm and i'd stripped her off a bit. she made me feel so incompetent.

I feel the same - i get really angry when you go out and see mums and dads with the big expensive labels, and all that, bundled up - and their kids aren't wrapped up or babies have no hats, jackets, blankies, sometimes not even any socks etc - being very very mindful of the fact also though that once they are a little older than 3 weeks they are little people with minds of their own who often will not want to keep hats on, will think socks are perfectly good to pull off, eat and discard etc... - actually, Ayja is like that alot, and has been since day dot. i remember though when paris was tiny - i went to the bank with mum and the lady working there said to me "you know, you are the first person i have seen today who has a hat on their child" it made me feel great - and also astounded cos it was a shocking cold rainy day!

I was at the hospital having blood tests done on Thursday and the person taking blood told me I was a bad mother because Zac was cold!!! It was around 30 degrees outside and around 20 degrees in the hospital with the a/c on and Zac was not cold. He had a singlet, t-shirt, shorts and socks on and was quite happy smiling at everyone. I was so flabbergasted that I didn't say anything back to her. Then she didn't even put a plaster on properly so I had blood running down my arm.

I think if she had suggested Zac was cold instead of telling me I was a bad mother I would still of been offended.



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I wouldnt have said anything to her. If i was her i probably would have been really offended too! But thats just me, she might have appreciated you saying something.

I dont think McDonalds is that bad. Unless the baby was licking the floor or something. Or all the toddlers were coming up and grabbing the baby.

yep, alot of the time you DON't WANT to be at home - by the time the 2nd week is over you just want out of those 4 walls and anywhere will do (those 1st timers, who have not yet experienced this... beleive all the mummies when they say this!! you will love your baby, and possibly like being athome too, but will get to the point where even going to the supermarket to do the shopping might be the highlight of your week!!!) lololol