The great toilet seat debate

Over the years I have listened to female friends complain about their significant male others leaving the toilet seat up. And based on comments I have heard on tv, it is long time issue that men aren't putting the seat down when they are finished in the loo.. So is this something that really frustrates the crap out of women in general?

Maybe I'm naive, but to clarify, I grew up with 2 brothers, and my mum never made them put the toilet seat down. It never occurred to me that they "should". I guess I assumed that since both males and females use the toilet, no-one really has "right of way" do they? So yeah, it goes without saying that I have never asked DH to put the seat down, so he never does. I don't know if I would feel differently if I had sons because I don't know if it's part of teaching manners? I dunno?....

So is this an issue at your house? Have you had to train the males living there that they must put the seat down? Why do you think it is that the males are the one who is supposed to put the seat down, as opposed to the females leaving the seat up?

I don't know why I was thinking about this, but I really am curious..

Edited by pepsi

It's not an issue in our house because we haven't made it an issue - if that makes sense.

My feeling is, woman who make a fuss about their partners putting the seat DOWN after they are done, should stop and think about the fact that their partners have every right to ask them to put the toilet seat UP when they are done.

Sooo in our house when you go to the toilet you'll either find the seat UP or DOWN depending on who was in there last.

I have more important things to worry about than worry about whether or not the boys have put the seat down.

DH always puts it down. His mother trained him well.

I don't really care. I live in a house of males so I am the odd one out. What I am trying to do thou is get them all to put the seat and the lid down as the toilet likes to spread its water over the walls

My DH always puts its down and I prefer it down personally. More because it was designed for the seat to be down so it 'looks' right IYKWIM...

My DH always puts both the seat and the lid down. Before I met him I always put the seat down but not usually the lid. However after living with him for a couple of years I notice I too put the lid down on every toilet I use as a matter of habit!

I can't stand the seat being left up personally....

My DH always puts the seat down - I don't think I told him to, he just does!
Doesn't really bother me though (maybe because its always down :) )

The seat has to be down in my house.
Reason being: I'm the boss and thats the way I bloody well like it. End of story.
Matt complained about it when we first started living together, saying ew I have to touch it and its so gross etc, so I responded with the fact that he should be washing his hands after he goes to the toilet anyway, so whats the problem.
Thomas will be taught to put the seat down as well.

mike always leaves the seat down, always has.

especially important when there's littlies toilet training (ie girls) who get a bit flustered when somethings not the same.

mandz wrote: My DH always puts both the seat and the lid down. Before I met him I always put the seat down but not usually the lid. However after living with him for a couple of years I notice I too put the lid down on every toilet I use as a matter of habit!

Same!!!!