In praise of solo mothers

I agree. I'm solo for another few weeks. However, I have the wonderful help of mum, whom I'm living with. I have NO idea how anyone permanently solo gets through the day without any damage to the children. I feel that given too many days alone, i would have one less child.

ok then ummmm i have my mother and lots of close friends but am way too proud to ask for help (have asked and it great)my mum or dad or a friend will take him if i,ve had too much but i would,nt swap him for all the tea in china and i get jelous of mums with panters so cherish what u have

thanks pixeldust, i think parenting is tough no matter what the situation.
I am lucky in that i have a lot of help from my parents,when caitlyn was little it was things like how was i going to hold her when she didnt want to be put down and get undressed? easy learnt to do it with one hand! even my bra and knickers! no my biggest prob has been keeping on top of bills and things

but id have that trouble even with out caitlyn cos i suck at saving and overspend!

i think it just comes down too u have a burtifull bubby who didnt ask for this suitoin and they depend on u for everything so u (me) just do it u realy dont have a choise well thats what gets me thur the day most of the time oh and u do it for therev cubby smiles and giggles i,m so in love with my boy

I agree with Lu and Kelly... once they smile it's all worth it!

Now, though, I so don't know how I did it with Kiya... having Nat around to help with Josiah was so much better!

no not crazy i treeifed to share james its scary a nuff to share him with his nannan and grandad

sometimes the most frustrating thing is that i dont know if i'll ever meet another man (cos caitlyn scares them off with promises of muffins lol) and i dont know if i ever will have other children

but then some days i dont want to have other kids , just me and caitlyn in our little gilmore girls type world

I'm facing the prospect of parenting solo for at least half of every month - Jono is in line for a job that is based in Sydney and if he gets it he will be away from home for at least two weeks out of every four. Financially it's a great opportunity for us, but I wonder how I'll cope with a newborn, all alone for a lot of the time. I also wonder how I'll be able to stop myself feeling resentful toward him, being in an exciting city, eating at restaurants every night, drinking at cool bars and then me at home with a baby, doing all the cleaning, cooking etc etc..... Anyone have any ideas?

I used to be quite the party girl and everyone expected me back out as soon as i had bubs and i thought i wud be out 2 but now i love staying home with Jack and my partner still goes out and i don't get jealous i love being with Jack. When u hav ur baby Clare u will love time wif bubs

preggy_sunflower my husband works away a lot and i find it extremely difficult not to become resentful and jealous. Although i trust my husband there is always that nagging "men away from home" concept in my mind which if you allow it to can start do your head in. Mine is away for the next 3 days then home for 1 day and has just announced he is then off to Malayasia for a week and 1/2!!!!! I am furious....................
I am not stranger to being on my own after raising my daughter alone for 11 years. However it is just so nice now to look forward to him coming home at night to give me a break whilst I cook dinner etc. Sam is 1 and just adores his daddy so I feel for him when hubby is not around for days as I am sure he must get sick of me day in day out.
I haven't been any help - sorry just a whinger. If I need to be honest I would say bugger the money and go with the family. I do like being able to stay home because of hubby's wage however I would go without whatever I could just to have him around more. Especially seeing you have a new bub it would be nice to have all the help and support you could. Time passes so quickly when you have a baby that you want to enjoy and treasure what time you have with them! Best of luck anyway.