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whodunnit 
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 4:37pm |
i'm too emabarrassed to ask this under my usual name 
our sex life is barely existant anymore because i'd prefer to go to sleep instead....but this isn't great for our relationship!
i was wondering if anyone had tried any pills/sprays etc to get them in the mood? a friend's hubby has used a supermarket herbal pill and said it worked wonders, but it's only for men 
thanks for your help
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chonni
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 4:47pm |
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hey i havint but my friend has (stupid thing to take when your about to go clubing haha) she said they worked well
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 4:58pm |
Never heard of them but the idea sounds great. It can be really hard to find the energy or desire to have intimate relations with your partner when young ones are exhausting you throughout the day. After DS2 it caused a huge rift in our marriage, my hormones played a big part in this I would actually duck away from DH as he came to hug me (he took offence as expected) I simply didn't want him anywhere near me in that way. Sorry if TMI, but we actually went months without IT, and when I stopped BFing my libido simply can back to normal. This time round it's very different though, haven't really lost my libido too much but still wouldn't mind have a bit more desire.....sex is great for the relationship
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 5:35pm |
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Maybe if the problem is mostly about you being too tired, perhaps you're doing too much of the childcare/housework? Sometimes a bit less stress in this area can do wonders..so it could be less about needing to take something to "fix" the problem, and more about getting a bit more help?
I read somewhere once that couples who share the household duties more equally usually have a better sex life after kids. This makes sense to me!
I'm assuming a lot here though considering I don't know who you are? haha Just talking from personal experience..
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 5:42pm |
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It is interesting I just had this conversation today!
I wonder too if it is something underlying?
For me I like a few things to be under control before I can get in the mood....for one more help about the house.
I have no idea re children for you, but maybe just some time together might help too?
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 7:33pm |
You're not the only one in that boat. Since having DS my desire for sex has dropped dramatically, from someone who liked to do it daily!!....to someone who doesn't give a toss. My poor DP, every now and then I give in, but then I'm thinking...yah that gives me a couple weeks respite lmfaoOo. Glad were not ttc at the mo, I think that probably contributes to it, the fact that I'm not wanting to get pregnant, but also not wanting to go on contraceptives, but I've done well so far  probably due to abstinence mainly lmfao. I think when I'm happier about my body then maybe I'll perk up in that department.
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 7:48pm |
 ooEvaoo wrote:
My poor DP, every now and then I give in, but then I'm thinking...yah that gives me a couple weeks respite lmfaoOo. t. |
haha thats exactly how I feel LOL....
Poster anon #1 your not alone and don;t be embarrased YOU NOT ALONE 
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 7:57pm |
it's me! 
i can't be bothered logging out then logging back in again just to reply in here
pepsi...... i do get quite abit of help around home from DH and with the kids.
i don't think i'm tired from anything in particular, just would rather go to sleep than have sex. man that sounds bad!
when we were TTC charli we were at it every other day, where ever and when ever we could........that's why DH was so bummed we got a BFP 2wks after we started trying! my mood dropped off big time after the BFP 
i just feel so bad for DH because he tries it on and i shrug him off and then he feels rejected because he doesn't understand why i don't want it.....and i can't understand why i don't want it either, i just don't
so that's why i thought i'd try some pills or some sort of herbal help and see if that 'got me back in the saddle' so to speak
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:00pm |
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definitely not alone. Course Dh's hours mean we can do it on SUNDAY night only. possibly monday. but nothing else. so if I don't feel like it on those two nights - nothing for the week. and often i am just too exhausted.
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:10pm |
We are the same Vanessa! I never used to be like this, but just recently my hormones have picked up!!
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:10pm |
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Don't be embarrased as I said and what you just wrote you coul dof been writing about me!
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:11pm |
Haha... ditto Ann! Crazy!
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:18pm |
so vannessa if you try them an they work - LET ME KNOW  My Dh will thank you for it
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:45pm |
i don't know which to try though or even where to look....i'm hoping you can buy them online...........perhaps TM
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:46pm |
chonni wrote:
hey i havint but my friend has (stupid thing to take when your about to go clubing haha) she said they worked well |
lol
don't suppose you could find out what they were called or where she got them?
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:47pm |
whodunnit wrote:
a friend's hubby has used a supermarket herbal pill and said it worked wonders, but it's only for men
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May I ask if you know what HE took??? maybe I can slip some into DP's dinner  Just kidding but I would like to offer him something to help him out but didn't know there was such thing. (like from the supermarket)
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:49pm |
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Lol Jess about spiking B's dinner! "Special" bacon and egg pie anyone??!!
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:51pm |
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LOL Vanessa!! Dump the kids on your mum and go have a dirty weekend :D :D Must be hard with the 2 kiddies - I have the one and my mother and her partner in the house :P anything herbal cant be bad for you.
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:51pm |
I am sure there is something you can take, I know I will need to be "rearing to go" when DH comes home, I have quite enjoyed the past few weeks of not being bugged for it.
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I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived!
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Posted: 20 August 2008 at 8:51pm |
i saw it today at pak n save with all the other vitamins etc.......it was called libido booster for men or something like that......with all the mens tablets
my friend said within an hour of taking it, he was horny as hell
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