Would you find this rude?

If you received a wedding invitation, with an information sheet attached that said the following, would you think it rude?? TIA


Further Information:

We would like all of our guests to enjoy our wedding as much as we will, therefore we have made it an adults only event.     

Gifts…
As we live together and have a full household (or 2) of belongings, in lieu of gifts we would be grateful if you could donate to our renovation fund. A wishing well will be set up at the reception venue for your convenience.

Nope don't find that rude at all. Its very nicely written, and I don't think it's meant to offend at all.

Thank you We did get feedback that people would like to know WHAT the donations are going towards, which is why we put in about the renovation part.

Yeah, our venue etc is not child-friendly - a golf course. The ceremony isn't until 5pm either. Most of our friends are happy to have a night off without the kids, it's only one sister of mine who probably won't be (and Mum's had a hissy fit about it already )

Gosh, thats not rude. People expect to see things like this now. Those who dont want to give you money will still buy you a gift (we got a couple). I think it is nice to let people know what you are planning on spending the money on.

Just got the invitation to BIL wedding and they have said something similar and are wanting money towards a big trip next year through south america.

I wish we had eloped, both our mothers guilted us into things.. stick to your guns hun and remind them that it is your wedding and you would appreciate if they would stop being so selfish!

Good luck.

I dont think its rude at all , I think it sounds very unoffensive

Yay thank you!! Another question is....would you think receiving an invitation now, for a wedding at the start of March, is too early? I've had mixed reviews about it...

I don't think it is too early at all, I like to be able to plan ahead. I was a bit surprised by my BIL's wedding as they didn't send invitations until 1 month before the wedding, which I think is a bit late

No not a rude message at all... and I too had a mother who laid the guilts on me about some of the decisions we made for the wedding - but at the end of the day DH and I were the ones who paid for the majority of it so the decisions were ours to make.

If you do think it's too early to send invites out, you could always do a very quick and simple 'save the date' mail-out (or email out...) but personally I'd just go straight to invites now.

Nope not rude, but don't sweat it on the day if there is the odd child at the ceremony.

And I would send them now. If fact I think it was this weekend 3 years ago that I was doing mine and sending them out for a March wedding. We have just received 2 Feb invitations in the post.