tantrum

i am "concernedmum" cause i think as mums we all have some concerns about some thing or another ... why are you "jjands"?

distraction, diversion, time out (for mums and/or kids), hugs, ask - tell - act, finding out the real problem, one on one time, ruling out medical problems .... all much nicer and acceptable ways of dealing with a tantruming child.

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concerned mum,
Please remember you also have days when things don't go right re: your post
I have failed as a mum!
I scream, i smack, i yell, i berate, i threaten, i swear, i call them names...and most days i dont like them or me. i dont want a third, didnt even want a second.

i disagree. My four year old has never had a tantrum where he has been unconsoliable as you have described. But if he did and I couldn't calm him down, then as a last resort I would do the shower thing. I don't think it is child abuse in the least. It won't cause irrepareable harm. it won't hurt them in any way. But it could be a way to calm them down quickly.

..my mum thinks that at times I should go into a cold shower myself......

Concerned Mum,
So glad to hear that between the 14/12 and now you have found a full proof way of controlling your childrens tantrums. According to your posts.
I take it this no longer involves hitting them? Because after all that is actual child abuse unlike a cold shower.
So who are you really seeming as you created another account?
P.S I don't feel that you are very welcome on here....this is a place for suppor not crisitism.

* is very confused*

think I have to lie down

You admitted you hit your children this is abuse cold showers are not. Hitting your children is ILLEGAL.
I only posted this topic because I wanted some advice not to have my head bitten off.
This really wrecks my time on the forums...

whatever - i voiced my opinion plain and simple... and it wasnt even about anything you had said, it was about fallens suggestion. You jjands are the one who attacked me and got on the defensive... Maybe time to look in the mirror!

fallen wrote: I was merely passing on a suggestion on something that worked for me. My daughter never stayed under the water for longer than a couple of seconds, but it was always enough to snap her out of the tantrum she had wound herself up into. I don't believe its in any way child abuse. But if you do, feel free to NOT try it.

funnily enough as a mother at my wits end with a 6yr old with ADHD, who is no longer alowd at any of her relatives including grandparents as she is so full on its tireing watching her she also gets so hyped up and frustrated that there is no consoling/calming/reasoning with her just hysteria
today i took her to the doctor & the doctor said . . . when she gets like that put her in the shower!! clothes and all ,as it is the best way to calm a child down quickly, (especially with s as the next step is usually a rage where she destroys anything she can get her hands on out of frustration) i kid you not thats what the doctor said!, and i thought what a dam good idea!!


edited to add :
havnt read all the posts only read half way down this page , so this post isnt to dig at anyone, its mearly stating my opinion,


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lol thas funny catzkids that a doc would suggest it and here ohbaby is discussing it too...