Am I Strange?

I am excited when things happen like baby kicks and stuff like that but i need to learn to get over about the other things i worry about.

DONT YOU WORRY ABOUT THAT 3% either!!!!

You are normal! I've gone through all that each time... your logical brain will work out that all your fears are completely unlikely, and that you will be fine!

Unfortunately, it is something that you will need to figure out yourself, but knowing that you're not the only one always helps. One day, something will click, and you will go "Oh, that's silly!" and you won't worry about that particular thing anymore.

I’m scared of cot death

Not being a good mum

Not bonding

Breaking her somehow

Doing a “Britney spears” and doing such stupid things that other mums look at me with a mix or pity and contempt for the rest of my life

Raising a daughter who goes totally off the rails in later life and hates me forever

SO yeah you are completely normal!

I’m not sure if anyone has read Paul Riser’s book titled “Babyhood” but it is truly funny! He has a fully comprehensive list of things he worries will go wrong…from holding the baby like a football for so long he accidently passes him to folding baby in the stroller and not discovering this until the next walk!

Ha ha Your funny Toni!!

I am sure it will come naturally. I think it does for most people? You will be fine!

I was one of the lucky ones who had Foster babies from when I was little - lots of them in our family from the day dot. Plus a sister who is 8 years younger so I mothered her like HEN. Then I went and was a Nanny. So I am very comfortable with anything generally.

EXCEPT SICK. I dont mind baby sick but when they turn to Adult sick ..OMG its awful. I have to run away.I cant even stand my own sick!!! Paige has only been sick twice in her whole life so far. The first time Mum was with me so she sorted it out. The second time Mark was here and he cleaned it up!!! PATHETIC aye!!

Sorry if TMI!!

My friend as a little boy who is 18months old now. He is adorable. She cracks me up tho. She loves him to bits but whenever she changes his nappy shes making funny faces and going "eww yuck" STILL. He runs around with his dirty fingers and climbs up to her and she holds him at a distance!!! There is a lot of humour in it and we both laugh. I dont think she realised exactly what she was in for!!!

I was worried about cot death etc but we had the CPR lady at antenatal class last night and learnt bits and bobs on how to avoid it and i feel a little better now.

I am worried about that sort of stuff too - on my list is:
still birth
birth defects (esp blindness for some reason I dont know why?)
cot death
LATE MISSCARRIAGE is a big one
ohh one of my worst fears is going for a scan and finding out that baby has passed away inside there - aweful i know but i think about it all the time)
I worry about me and hubby fighting over ways to raise thsi kid (we already differ over smacking, i am against it - he thinks its fine)
I worry about not spending enough time with baby not bonding, somehow doing something that makes it turn out to be a psychpath, not spending enough time with hubby, ot spending anough time with myself on my own
I worry about money, weight, our sex life, and how we will cope if god forbid anythign happens to our kid...
But it is all normal, or so I am told - it just means you care, and most of the time when I start to worry I just say to myself taht teh future will not change because I had a sleepless ngiht, what will be will be, and if it is bad then it will make a stronger person/couple of us, if it is good it will enrich our lives...well tahts what I tell myself anyway

Edited by mrs frantic

all normal linelle!!!!! funny thing i remember... while preg with my second baby, i was having a blood test the week i went over due, and i HATE needles, i was soooo scared and the lady who did it said "gee how you going to handle labour and the birth if you cant handle a blood test, but to me the needles are the worst part!lol, no problems with the labour or birth, but i was thinking maybe its because i have more control?? like im not the one controling the needle or something?? i dont know, but i am the worlds BIGGEST wuss, and to tell you the truth i wasnt ever scared about birth etc... and i took it all in my stride while going through it! sweet as!

but i am a constant worrier about cot death and things too, i hardly slept for weeks (my own fault) checking on my girls!!! mind you my mother found me in my cot not breathing several times as a baby and managed to revive me, so i guess its quite a real thing for me, seen as i stoped breathing.

I still check the boys at night heaps and do the same as Liz - have to make sure i can hear them breathing and if not have to do the tickle test i tickle their hands to see if they move. I had a TTTS scare Emma. The docs thought I might have had it as the boys had such a big difference in their weights and they were pretty quick to refer me to wellington to the specialist. Anyway in the end it wasnt so that was good news.
But i think its totally normal to freak when having a bub esp your first or if you have had probs with prev pregs.

Are you strange? Yes..

Are you normal? Hell YES....

As you can see we all have fears and most have a common theme... i lie in bed in the morning and if it is later than normal for toby to be awake i dont want to go in, just in case, so then i lie there straining my ears for any noises.

My husband admitted to me the other day that even now he worries that gabriel will not be in his bed in the morning so he wont look in, just in case.