Losing a Twin!

My mum lost my youngest sister's twin quite early into her pregnancy. Like you she didn't know it was twins until she lost one.

Talking to her about it recently she said she felt kinda numb about it at the time and it didn't really hit her until my sister was born (at about 39 weeks by elective c section - only cos Mum's first 3 kids were all c section). It didn't cause any problems with bonding but it brought home what she had lost - although she still feels guilty to this day that she felt a bit relieved not to be having to deal with twins (especially with 3 older kids in her case).

Mum is largely philosophical about it though. One of Jen's best friends since kindy is a twin, but *her* twin is severely disabled and Mum thinks if Jen's twin had survived that may have been what we would have ended up dealing with.

She was quite closely monitored, I remember her having lots of scans.

Not sure if Jen "knew" anything but she was the only one of us kids that had an imaginary friend as a toddler, even before she could talk she always seemed to be playing with someone who wasn't there. She was told when she was still reasonably young and is fine with it, it's more a curiosity to her than anything iygwim.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and the scan, and sorry for your loss It must be a crazy mixed up kind of feeling.

I'm sure Mum would be happy to chat about it so if you want her email address PM me

Thats great you still have a bubs in there!
I dont reckon they would know they had a twin, at that stage it would have just been cells that you lost if that makes sense. They think Kobe might have been a twin because I had a second thing attached to my placenta which they said is likely to be a twin that didnt go past a few weeks.
Im guessing the rest of your pregnancy will go along as normal. Good luck

wow congrats (well sorry about losing one but YKWIM!) !

Hasnt happened to me, but a good friend of mine had that happen. She had the sack inside for quite some time as well.
Other twin was born a few months ago and is just perfect.

Hi Peanut, what a rollercoaster for you.
It hasn't happened to me either, but one of my friends had lost a twin in the early weeks of pregnancy and then had a normal rest of preg, carried full term and had a perfect baby girl. She's absolutely healthy and fine.

Hey Peanut, so happy to see you have a sticky bean in there.. but very sorry to hear one didnt make it. I can only say what a bitter sweet scan that must have been.

My DH is a surviving twin... They didnt have scans back then and as MIL had had a C section with her first it was routine for all subsequents to be C section also. Lucky for her and DH that this was the case as the twin was eptopic and a natural birth could have killed them both.... She lights a candle on their birthday for her angel and puts it next a red rose.

She does say that she has always felt that the twin has been there looking out for DH and that in some way DH knew that as a child. Apparently he was an oddly calm child, like he knew everything would always be ok.

Hugs