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Caniry 
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Posted: 26 September 2009 at 1:19pm |
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Hi everyone, I’m a newbie here and have a question (probably the first of many!).
My son (18months) always seems to be pushed over backwards by other kids – now I know kids will be kids and falls are inevitable, but my son always seems to be the one singled out. My son is pretty quiet and just minds his own business and other kids will just walk up to him and push him over backwards – it has happened on two seperate occasions this week only! It absolutely breaks my heart seeing him being hurt :( It can’t be good for him falling on his head all the time. Does anyone have any advice on how I can help prevent this – without turning into a “helicopter” parent or ways which I can maybe teach my son to avoid these situations? Thanks.
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lilfatty
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Posted: 26 September 2009 at 1:47pm |
Surely with enough knocks he will either learn to get out of the way .. or stand up for himself 
Unless you take him away from each situation, I doubt there is much you can do to prevent stuff like this happening. You could always tell the other child to use gentle hands etc etc .. but unfortunately you cant shadow him forever.
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cuppatea
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Posted: 26 September 2009 at 3:56pm |
My boy was a bit like that, he was late to walk and a lot smaller than his peers, is still a lot smaller than them, however he got some attitude when he turned two and is now just as capable of pushing and hitting  believe me that is worse, it's upsetting when your kid gets pushed or hit, it's downright awful when your kid is the one that does the pushing/hitting.
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Caniry
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Posted: 26 September 2009 at 4:02pm |
thanks lilfatty and Cuppatea for your feedback - my son is small for his age too so wonder if that makes a difference? - just really hard watching your kid being pushed over when it doesn't really seem to happen to any of the other kids - maybe I just need to somehow show my son to land on his bottom, rather than his head until he's old enough to learn to walk away
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jazzy
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Posted: 27 September 2009 at 8:25am |
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Caniry, what kind of situation are you talking about? play group? coffee group?
You can step in with out being too over the top. If it is the same kids doing it, talk to them...
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LittleBug
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Posted: 27 September 2009 at 1:47pm |
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I would definitely let the kids that are doing the pushing know that it's not acceptable, and if they continue to do it then chat to their parents. I don't think that it's OTT at that age to be sticking up for your kid. He is only 18months old.
If it continues to be a problem then I'm not really sure... but I think that at this age it's not really a big deal, kids are being rough (unless they are older kids that should know better) and you need to help them to set some limits by telling them what's acceptable and what isn't.
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Caniry
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Posted: 01 October 2009 at 8:25pm |
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Jazzy - my son has been pushed over at music and also at our place or at our friends houses.
Most of the times the other mothers see their son push my boy over and will tell them it's not right and discipline them etc - so I don't feel the need to step in and say anything else.
so I just really wanted to know if there was anything I could teach my son to help avoid the situations, or at least land on his bottom rather than his head. Most of the time my son just thinks the other kids are coming up to "talk" to him - then all of a sudden they will push him over.
Littlebug - thanks for your comment too.
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being pushed around :(
