How much time with your DH?

I would prob be the same in your position    I love snuggling with DH and we do a lot of it too. He is a shift worker so we get a lot of time together and we do pretty much live in each others pockets (which is such a wonderful way to be considering we have been together 10 years nearly). Happy snuggling!!

I dunno, I think it depends on the couple. DH and I love having time to do our own things as well as we have some differing likes/hobbies so when we have the chance we do that often too. But then we also spend time together. But if he went away lots I'd probably wanna spend more time with him while hes home

If you count being in the same room, DH on the lap top and me watching tV then yup we spend time together in the evenings.

We don't go out all that much, and often spend the weekends doing stuff around the house.

Its all fine by me, as long as you are happy with the time you spend together I wouldn't worry about it.
If however you want to go out more actually do stuff then maybe one of you needs to organise it.

During summer DH and I make an effort to go for walks in the evenings gives us time away from distractions and helps with fitness too.

Yip i think everyone is different

During the weeks DH and I are never really home.. Him with work, tech and sport and me with sport and walking... So we kind of pass an go during the week..
Always have a chat at some point

Weekends are doing sport stuff - we both try watch each other when we can.. Also house stuff.

Love going out for dinner etc so DH and i try and do this quite a bit - never always works
Also date night - it is awesome..

We will see how much it changes with kids

DH an I are together almost 24/7 He is on ACC after a rather serious accident.
We each look after our son equally during the day, and each have our own time to do things
We are both quite new to this town so only really have each other to hang out with.

We both do all the housework. I have him trained quite well.

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I feel I did more together before we had bubs, of course, but now all my focus is on her and not him, I felt the closest I ever have with him when I was giving birth but not so much now (does that makes sense?). We are best friends and partners and although he hasn't been away like your partner, army seems to rule his life. He gets home frustrated and then plays ps3 to unwind... yep army games hahaha. Hes only been away few weeks at a time (but still away quite a bit). I know he doesn't choose to go away but I feel Im stuck at home taking care of everything while he is playing rambo. I would struggle BIG time not seeing him for half a year.

I think that having a date night once a month is a great idea! even if the kids are away you stay home hehe

My DH goes away a lot, sometimes for a week sometimes for 2 months at a time and there is always a readjustment period, the first couple of weeks are kind of like a honeymoon and then after that its up & down. He has no set routine when home, he could be working anything from 3 hours to 12 hours a day and then maybe has one day off a week where we know he has no work commitments, so its really hard to get into any set routine as a couple as such. We are always in a kind of limbo too as there are times where he is gone for 2 weeks and then home for 2 days before going away again for 2 weeks.

We do tend do a lot of watching TV together and we always try to eat together if he is at home for dinner. I try not to let the housework etc. get to me and do it when I can, we are in the middle of gutting our house so nothing ever really looks tidy anyway and I would rather spend time with DH when I can than do housework. We spend a lot of time together doing stuff to the house (landscaping, building etc.) which is either a very harmonious experience or NOT lol! One thing we do is get out a movie, get some wine and favourite treats and then just blob out once DD is in bed and try to have a date night when we can (not that often!)

Me and DP spend time together during the day as we're both unemployed atm, we usually just spend the day cuddling or going on our laptops to do things we enjoy. Sometimes we watch movies.

We try to go out once or twice a month on dates to the movies or out for dinner, just to spend time together.

minik8e wrote: We're much the same as mrsg - except it's me on the laptop and him watching TV (he channel surfs, which drives me completely batty, because you never get to see a full story on the news, let alone a TV program). We do usually talk about things when we go to bed - we cuddle before we go to sleep every night and that's when we end up talking about things. It has diminished somewhat since having the girls however!!   Otherwise we just have general chit chat, but we can go an evening sitting in the same room without talking as such - just asking the meaningles questions "do you want a drink" etc.

Thats us too

Honestly, I probably spent more time talking to DH when he lived on the other side of the world!

Now with DH studying he is out of the house for three of the five days and when he is at home, its the feed and get everyone into bed routine, then he has to study or finish assignments.

Emz - I hear you on the cant do things together anymore. DH and I used to work out at the gym together, now one goes and the other one goes when that one gets back!

Its not forever though .. the kids will get to the age where we can leave them both with the grandparents and DH and I can have real dates!