Im so flippen angry at DH!

so I get my chriscos money last night.
this morning hubby said he needed new shoes, yeah ok no problem
however
$100.00 later for shoes
$35.00 for flippen golf balls
$20.00 for his phone
$20.00 for his bus card
$10.00 for lunch

then he's just gone to golf! so needs green fees - about $30 I think

that's over $200 he has spent of out f**ken Christmas money!
I am so angry its not funny!
he knew that was all we had for Christmas presents this year, but he doesn't seem to f**ken care. I need new shoes cause I only have basically one pair and they have holes in the bottom - my feet are getting soaked in the rain. I need a new jacket because the zip on my one is broken, can still do it up but can't undo it, I need a new pair of pants and a new top as I'm living in basically one top that fits and a pair of pants so old they have holes in them!

ARGH! ARGH!


and he didn't make his target for November (he works in retail) so NO BONUS! so we don't even have that to full back on

Um, I'd be furious. You still have a hundred left right? Go to the $2 shop and get some stuff for the boys, I'm sure the rest of your family will understand that you can't afford to buy gifts, maybe get creative and make them something (food, craft, plant seeds, pictures of the boys).

I understand the shoes and the bus pass but the rest is irresponsible if you ask me.

he knows how much money we don't have, we are currently seeing a budget advisor and everything, seen the graphs of our budget and been told that basically we are in the sh*t

grrr he's just rang and said he has ordered his mum some photo blocks and I said what about my mum
ohh I forgot
argh!

If he's ordered more than one for his mum, split them to include your mum too. Does he do this a lot? Maybe he needs a small allocation of cash each week and not to have access to the account till he's sorted himself out?

Hmmmm are these men your husbands or another child?

Cuppatea - unfortunately some men's mothers didn't do the best job of teaching budgeting My DH actually prefers it this way as he asked me to do it and made me change the passwords for IB etc because he can't control himself. Trust me I'd prefer him to be able to have self control but he doesn't and unless and until he learns, this is the way it is so we keep our house and can feed our kids

Grr tastic!

When I lived in Korea and it was common practice for the husbands to hand their pay cheque over to their wife and their wives to give their husbands an allowance.

Currently DP controls our household finances, I pay him rent and some of the 'shared' utlities like power. He pays the sky bill as he gets mainly for sport (though I watch TV too) while I'm an internet addict so I pay for that which includes our phone bill so it works out. Ditto with food.

However DP is much like your husband and will spend money like nobody's business. However he earns heaps so at least he has the salary to back up his purchases.

GRRRRRRRRRRRRR @ your DH Tastic!!!!

I agree, tell him to cancel the photo block order else the boys won't be getting any pressies this year

I really feel for you hun, Christmas is the WORST time of year when you're feeling skint

Ohh that sucks and would make me so mad! Agree with the others that maybe he just doesn't have access to the money if he can't control himself. Sometimes they have to learn that if they stuff up, THEY suffer the consequences.

Sorry he needs to suffer some consequences - have the shoes been worn???? Cause I'd be returning them tomorrow if not. Thats just not nice or fair that he has spent all that money on him, especially if you only had $300 to start with - how is he expecting santa to visit this year? Photo blocks if he ordered more than one split them up or if you still can cancel the order. And apart from his bus card and maybe $20 cash a week that's it. I guessing you never get to have lunch out so why should he, and no treat for mum - what planet is he on. Hugs and goodluck. And just a thought next year pretend your not doing the order - and send to your mum's and he will be none the wiser and you will have it to spend on the kids as you planned.

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