hi there

hi iim 17 im a solo mum to a baby boy thats just turned one i fell pregnant at 15 had him not long after i turned 16 i was working 60hours a week before i found out(i'd left school) i was 25weeks i didnt have the guts to tell mum until i was just over 30 weeks i know the looks when i had my son my midwife was on holiday and the back up wouldnt attend the birth as i was being induced so i got passed over to a hospital midwife and i got treated like dirt i was only aloud to touch my baby to feed him and even then i had a nurse there at all times i wast aloud to change his nappy or anything. i had very bad depression and on a very strong antidepressnt i was drinking right up till i found out if i wasnt working i was drinking. now if i walk down the st i get horrible looks ive lost friends every thing, by now your possibly wondering what the point of this is.. well the point is i wouldnt change it for the world if i hadnt of had my son i would so be drinking my life away we have our ups and downs hes been in and out of hospital. but its all worth it to get home and have cuddles with my little man

welcome there are a surprising amount of women that still get dirty looks even though they married and already have other kids and are in their mid to late 20s. i know it sucks to get those looks, but just remember its their problem. they may be jealous, they may have personal reasons (ie daughter, sister, themselves) that makes them disagree with "young" mums. but if you love your little boy thats all you need to worry about. if i understand your post properly then you have stopped yourself drinking which is a HUGE thing and you should be so proud of that! where abouts are you from? coz everyone in here ive ever posted with is absolutely lovely and im sure there is a group on here that has started a coffee group in your area and would be happy to see you good luck hun! pm me if you ever need to chat or unload or just say hi

Hey teenmum!
I'm 19 and having my first in a couple of weeks, I get looks being pregnant but I just ignore them - it's not their life or their business!

I have a friend who got pregnant at 15 and had a little boy just after she turned 16 also, her family kicked her out and she went to stay in a home for pregnant girls in Welly, she too got treated in a similar way to you and it was sad.
She went on to have a little girl the following year and is now about to have her 3rd. Unlike you, she lost her first 2 babies as because she didn't have any support, she was deemed unfit to look after them and they were taken away.

Enjoy you're little man, and all the best for the future!!

hey and welcome :D
Don't worry bout what other ppl think, it was your choice to keep and have your baby son and as long as you care for him and love him thats whats best for you!!!
I 2nd what kahlia said, theres sure to be a mums meet up somewhere round where you live and everyone I've met on OB are really nice.

Raspberryjam wrote: People are so judgemental - you just have to remind yourself that they must be miserable to have to look down on other people to make themselves feel better

So true!!

Welcome to OhBaby!
I am sure you will find lots of lovely young mums around here... and lovely older mums too!

I too am/was a young mum, and totally agree how having a baby often can change your life for the better. I often wonder what I would be up to today if I didn't get pregnant so young and I think I could easily still be at home, lacking confidence, still not having any direction in life.
I am now 23 and have 2 beautiful girls, I am married and I am happy!

That is shocking how you were treated in hospital It is a sad fact that there are people out there that have to be so judgemental! Even now I notice the odd look but I now know I that I am so much better than they are