OMG what a cow!!

my new plunket nurse just arrived and I was relieved to find she thinks along the same lines as I do since the last lot were into attachment parenting and not letting your baby cry at all, routines are unhealthy, etc and while that may be some mums choice it wasn't mine so of course felt very unsupported!!

I want to know the name of who rang you to see if it was the same one who had a go at me when I had Andrew.

DS1 has the worst PN ever she said cause he was not putting any weight on that he had Cystic Fibrosis so he had to go to hospital & be strapped to a table & have tubes down him & have heaps of test. He was only a few weeks old I was a new mum & there was nothing wrong with him & she wondered why I changed PN? Stupid cow.

How rude of her!!

My plunket nurse thinks I'm slightly insane, but has learned that being nasty to me doesn't work . (I'm a weirdo hippie who uses chamomile tea for teething & tummyaches, and only gets out the pamol in extreme emergencies!)

How terrifying what they did to your DS1, Jazzy!! Some of them are quite neurotic about checking all the boxes they're supposed to, I know after my DS was admitted to hospital for failure to thrive at 10 days old my midwife got in lots of trouble, and once we got released from hospital would come around every single day to weigh him - and threatened to send us back to hospital if he lost any weight (even if he'd just had a big poo or a big puke!). You would think there would be other things to check out before invasive tests, not surprised you ditched her!!

COMPLAIN, A&C's mum. Nobody should have to have someone grumpy & condescending inflicted upon them, especially not new mums.

I ended up in tears when I first met my PN. First she told me off for side sleeping him in a wedge then I started crying about my difficulties feeding (DS would come on and off, scream, arch back etc, and was eventually diagnosed with reflux) she shrugged, said it could be wind or hunger or anything, looked and her watch and me sobbing, and told me it was time for her to go and that parenting was "tough"!

BecM wrote: I ended up in tears when I first met my PN. First she told me off for side sleeping him in a wedge then I started crying about my difficulties feeding (DS would come on and off, scream, arch back etc, and was eventually diagnosed with reflux) she shrugged, said it could be wind or hunger or anything, looked and her watch and me sobbing, and told me it was time for her to go and that parenting was "tough"!

OH MY GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I have to go, he needs to be weighed. I want to prove weight gain on neocate & his current diet. Dietiation's idea of gaining weight was adding oil to his food.

My plunket nurse is totally lovely, a great support & an asset to our community. Can't say that for this old cow I got on the phone today!

BecM...that is horrifying! I did all the exact same stuff with Cooper & my plunket nurse supported me. It annoys me how they are not all reading from the same book!

Unfortunately I can't feed any dairy or soy so that rules out the typical "fatty" foods either via breastmilk or solids. I'm managed to source some Neocate from an OB friend so we've only introduced just that for now, hopefully he'll have a big enough gain that my Dr can say that it's working & to just prescribe it!

He definitely feels fatter in the arms & legs & his nappies are getting tighter so they are all good signs.

Oil appeared to basically go straight through him. You could give her yogurts, cheese slices. I've been told 2 proteins a day as well. Have discovered after weeks of meat refusal that I need to chew it first. Just enough to break the exterior which is tougher on babies.

Good luck today at the weigh in Kel. (your regular nurse isn't Sonja is it??)

 

I'm also lucky in the plunket nurse I've got, I was pre-prepared to have a bad one from all the stories I've heard and turns out I was lucky because others in my antenatel group weren't so lucky and have got a couple of shall we say, difficult plunket nurses.

Super weigh in: 9.12 (8 May) up to 9.32kg today. She started on at me, saying why are we doing this & that babies don't need much milk over a year & was surprised I was still breastfeeding & said he's going to be thin cause you are, I said no I have lost 15kg I am not normally this weight. She was just give him milk, um no he's dairy intolerant/allergic.

So then she goes on to what I feed him. What about baby rice...it has soy in it, oh what about...it has soy in it!

She started coming around to understanding & said maybe he's celiacs. Right, as if I need to cut out pasta!

She was very pleased I feed him porridge though!

She said you know Plunket doesn't get paid for these visits! They only get paid for the certain ages check ups. I said Judith is the only one supporting me & giving me extra idea about how to get weight on him ( I thought that is what Plunket is about, supporting the health of under 5's in the community!)

She also didn't understand the lack of sleep thing! OH my grandchild is like that at 6 months. I said yes fine at 6 months but not at 12 months & not 2 hourly wakings! Then she was like Oh I suppose he's been on losec since he was little, I said no since Jan & yes he needs it cause we forgot it one weekend & it was hell to pay.

I just wanted to get in & out of there. I said can I leave the door open so my CC can play out there & she said no the door has to be shut & shuts it with a 15 month old unsupervised in the outer room!!!! I said I will be bringing her in then thanks!

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