Would you be upset?

Hi everyone

Just wondering if this would upset you guys?
My baby was born prem (almost 7 weeks) on 21 July. He was due 4 September.

I am fairly close with my family and we all live within an hour of each other. I have 2 older brothers and a younger sister. We all have kids of our own.
So, my baby is now over 10 weeks old and my brother and his wife haven't even been to see him      This particular brother lives less than 15 minutes from me.
Yes, they have kids of their own. 10years and 5 years and they all have had a run of coughs and colds but I feel really sad that they haven't been to even meet him.
My brother rung while I was in hospital to say congratulations but we weren't home so he left a message so basically I have had nothing, no conversation, no card, no visit or anything.....

Would this upset you or am I over-reacting. All of my other family have been to visit as have alot of friends.

Edited by Carnelian

Why don't you ring him or send him a text suggesting he come and visit. Maybe he doesn't know that he can with having a premie. Men aren't the sharpest and sometimes they need to be told or encouraged as to what to do.
With his kids having a run of winter ills staying away from your little guy isn't a bad thing.

I probably should have added I have called twice and text a couple of times too.
I think what annoys me the most is that his wife made the excuse of how sick she was so they couldn't come lately but then I saw on facebook after that weekend that her status update was "I hate hangovers on a Monday".
So how sick was she? Obviously not too sick to get drunk......

Fair enough then carnelian I'd be a bit miffed too, maybe they're simply not interested.

I don't have much of a relationship with my brother him not coming to see our baby wouldn't surprise me.

Maybe there simply not interested, sad but hey families can be like that.

I think it would depend on the day how I felt.

My brother surprisingly came and visited me in hospital with Daniel which I was dumb founded by cause I didn't expect it but he has pretty much no time for him now.

I would be really upset, but then i'm insanely close with my 3 sisters so they were all with me when I gave birth lol, but yea especially as you say he lives so close, he should have been to see you and bubs and you have every right to feel the way you do, although I do agree he wouldn't be doing it to upset you and may have just not thought about it, but hopefully him and his wife see sense and make the trip to see you otherwise he is going to miss out on those special early days

hmmm yes that would really hack me off, but my brothers and I are all really close and they all came to see me at hospital when I had the kids.

If your baby was prem and they have had coughs and colds they are probably staying away for health reasons. Might be a good idea to invite them over for an afternoon tea/meet the baby now that you are settled. Life with a 5 yo and 10yo is pretty busy and its easy for the weeks to slip past.

If you are a close family then yes I would be upset especially as they live so close. They can't all be sick. I am sure that he could come on his own if his wife and/or kids were sick, or at least asked if you were ok with him visiting or not due to their sickness