Single Parents Vent

I am tired of being expected to do all of the work on the house by myself, when I have the girls. You live there, you have plenty of time after work when it's still light and don't have the girls, why not get off your backside and do something instead of waiting for everyone else to do it for you, as usual!!! The house needs to be sold, and we need to get the best possible price for it because we're already not going to get enough to pay off the mortgage, ACCEPT IT!!!! And do something to help instead of sitting back and doing all you can to make me suffer!!! It doesn't help the girls, or our relationship either!

Nic - I am at Uni, but I do it extramurally. It is hard, very hard!!! I have an assessment due next week which is going to be interesting. I am thankful I don't have placements though (doing a Bachelor of Business Studies). Good luck!!

The father of my daughter is getting married tomorow to the girl he cheated on me with , she has just turned 19 and is 6 months pregnant . he hasnt seen his daughter in over 6months and hasnt even sent a single message asking how she is in over 4 months, he also pays absolutly NOTHING in child support and has never ever paid a single thing for her (not even a pack of nappies or item of clothing to help out)  and he uses the excuse "i have no money".... hmmmm weddings , and rings , and other new babies cost money AHOLE so you must have some stashed away somewhere , im not a retard!!! .theres my vent ..... dont think i have to say much more than that LOL . 

Upside tho - we dont need him coz hes a dooche ( excuse the language)  She is a happy , healthy wee girl and she has me and my partner (the closest thing to her dad ) at her every beak and call   what more could a baby ask for ?

 

Nicand Tyler- i dont know exactly what you are going through as i dont study but i do work and i understand what you are saying about your lecturer as my big boss (a Male ) is the same and quite simply does not understand that it is actually quite difficult for me to work untill 8pm with an 18mth old esspecially when i have nothing to do with babys father , preschools actually arent open that late .... suprise suprise . I am lucky tho that my partner helps me and looks after her for me , i quite simply would not be able to work at my job without him there . Im glad you have a supportive family , Family are great at these times

Edited by julz85

Getting more and more wound up with the ex.
Went shopping again today for bath-time stuff to prepare for baby's arrival.

Ended up getting a bath, nail scissors and a bunch of shampoo/bedtime bath lotion/baby oil/baby powder etc which as usual I had to pay for the lot, after he picked out half of it saying "we should get this!"

Later went to Farmers to look at bath toys and special teddies for the baby and he spent the whole time picking out bath toys for a baby and I thought we were getting somewhere, but he proceed to say they'd be great for his 5 year old daughter. Gah.

We made up a list the other day of stuff we still need to get and I suggested I get the bath-time stuff, and he chooses something else on the list to get (to give him a hint), but he said he'd rather come along and get the bath stuff together.

Anyone got any ideas on how I can get him to take a bit of the financial responsibility?
So far I've sorted clothes up to about six months, cot, bassinet, pram, bath stuff, changing table, and he's not paid a cent or bought a thing, and it's really starting to frustrate me now that he has a flatmate so he has spare cash, and he's always got a new pack of smokes.

I wish I could just yell at him (haha) but I don't want to ruin the friendship that we have at the moment or embarrass him.

I have had nearly two weeks of sleepless nights and really grumpy baby because of his molars. Stupid ex has no idea what it's like to take care of a child fulltime without many breaks, which causes so much tension between us because he is so consumed with himself and "how much he can handle" - it's SO pathetic. Just find I have to pick up the pieces all the time.

Nathan wakes up at 5am/6am most mornings. If the ex wakes up at 8 or 9am he calls that "early". Because he didn't pay me a fortnight ago and my car needs repairs, I have to put Nathan in the buggy, off down to the bus and go to WINZ for a food grant etc. Because he couldn't be bothered getting out of bed at 8:30am to drop me off there. And besides all that I have yelling and swearing not just from him (because he feels guilty I'm taking the bus with Nathan), but from the rest of his family ringing me up and having a go at me!!!!

I just WISH that you would stop being sooooo abusive! Is that too much to ask? And I just wish that you realised how bl**dy hard it is for me instead of how hard it is for you, d*ckhead!

Wow, what a cheek she has. I would be p!ssed off too.
Its a little too late for nice.

I want another baby being single sucks *sigh*

Stop feeding the child junk food at 4pm just before I pick her up f**kwit You do it on purpose because you know she won't eat her dinner if you stuff her with chips and chocolate milk. And don't smirk when I ask you not too - you are just using the child to get to me and thats not fair on her.

And stop driving her around in your car. You know you are not allowed to and telling me you can do what you like when she is with you and that I can't stop you is neither adult behaviour nor appropriate when we are talking about the safety of a 2 year old.

I hate you and I hate that you yell sh*t at me and I am too much of an adult to yell back. I want to vent to but am I doing it to your face? No, because I am too much of an adult to rock the boat and cause more problems.

Edited by Shelt

Yes well my ex couldn't drive when we split up either. He only got his restricted last week and we have been having a dispute about him driving her around. The NZTA have said it is against the law but today he took DD to Kawerau (about 1.5hrs down the road) and he can't see the problem with that He doesn't have much driving experience as he has only been learning since he moved in to his current flat in September and he can't see that he is putting DD's safety at risk. Plus its against the law. I am so incredibly angry that he took her out of town without telling me, and that he drove with her in the car and not just round town but for 3 hours on the open road today

I think the thing here is that she doesn't actually live with him as a dependent.

Shelt, I am angry at this guy too and I don't even know him!

Ahh I see! Ignore me then! I just thought that as she was in his care at the time... But that makes sense too!