Depression or Grieving?

I have struggled with depression in the past. Last year I had Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome (I live in Christchurch) and had to go on meds. I went off them this year in January so we could try for a baby. The doctor felt it was best to go off them if I was feeling ready, before we tried.

So, as you can see, since June, we have been on a bit of a roller coaster. Now I find I am often sad or low - so not fun for DH. I am also tearful or bursting into tears often. When AF arrives it's the worst. I hide it from DH now because I think he doesn't understand and thinks I should be over it by now.

My question is: is this normal grieving? Is anyone else feeling like this? Is it normal to be often tearful and low this far out from a miscarriage? I am just working out whether I really need to be back at the doctors. I don't want to spend my holidays crying!

Hi tan73,

Sorry for your loss and to hear about the hard time you are having. I have been there and I think it varies for each person. I took my first miscarriage very hard and it took me a long time to get over it. Especially the fact that due to medical reasons I couldn't try again for at least 6 months after.

I miscarried in September and I think it wasn't until about February that I started to come right again. If you need to, ask for help... that is one thing I wish I had done was get some counselling. I thought I could cope but I couldn't and it just made things worse me not getting help when I needed it. The would have been milestone days were also very difficult (20 weeks, due date etc) but I managed to get through them and now I have a baby boy on the way.

Try to stay positive and know that you will get through this x