Whether to find out sex...

I know this is a really personal decision and everyone has their reasons for finding out or for not finding out. We tried to find out with DD but she had the umbilical cord between her legs and her legs crossed (atta girl!) so we couldn't. In the end I was really pleased we couldn't- I loved having it as a surprise and found it really special to be able to call everyone after she arrived and announce "its a girl!"

Anyway, we are really unsure as to what to do this time. Some days I really want to find out and other days I don't. We don't really have a reason to find out as we don't mind either way but it would be good for practical reasons (and my patience!) to find out at my next scan. DH doesn't mind either way and has said its up to me.

So my question is- what were your reasons for finding out/not finding out? Aaaand the biggy- did you tell people and if not, did you find it easy to keep it a secret?

I know that if we found out I would want to tell my Mum but then DH would want to tell his and I know that my MIL is just like Bombshells and would blab all over town and I wouldn't want that happening.

Maybe, we could find out and I'll tell DH it will just be us and then secretly tell my Mum....

LOL yeah we found out bubs is a girl and told everyone...parents first, DHs grandad (the only greatgranparent she will have) and then text all our friends and sent email...but the name was meant to be secret!
Reason for finding out....the shop mainly! I didnt want to just do neutral - i wanted to be prepared and buy while we could afford to. To decorate the nursery and bubs! And after seeing a girlfriend get all white stuff at her babyshower cause she didnt find out sex (didnt want to) I thought no way!!!
I tell u bubs better not turn into a boy!!! LMAO

We new both times, there was no way either of us could wait that long and it also meant that we were able to give bubs a name and that made me conect with bubs better, before then it was almost surreal and just a baby, knowing what it was gave it an identity to me.
we told anyone who asked what we were having and personally i hate it when people say they know what they are having but not going to tell anyway. Drives me crazy.

we did n't find out with either. With Jake, Lewis made me promise not to ask. IF they asked me, i could say yes, but I wasn't allowed to ask myself. so i didn't. and no one ever mentioned it. I really wanted to know. I was sure I was having a girl and had said that I would've been really disappointed if we were having a boy - maybe if we had found out while I was pregnant, i would have been. However, finding out as he was born, I didn't even think about "oh no, he's a boy".

With Taine, same deal, but this time I didn't have the same desire. It was kinda neat to guess. Nearly forgot to find out the sex once he was born. I ended up with a different midwife who didn't realise I didn't know. I was asking "what is it>" and she kept saying "baby is nice and healthy". lewis ended up checking.

Ahhh thanks Paws- thats good to know! I am swaying toward finding out at the moment- but of course yesterday I was adament I wouldn't so who knows!

I think if I felt strongly either way as to what sex it was I would definitely find out but I just really don't mind- will be rapt either way. Hmmmm decisions decisions!

i just wanted to no so i new what to buy either bule or pink my mum didnt want to no ntill after i had my scan and she just had to know but its relly up to you if you want to know then maybe you could ask and keep it a secert just for you and hubby and then maybe your mum oh and congrays on 12 weeks yay

I'm really against finding out. I want it to be a surprise, like you said Jennz it'll be great to ring round people and announce that not only did I have a baby but its sex too. It kinda freaked me out that my cousin found out and had named hers Charlie at 19 weeks pg, everyone was referring to him by name and even my grandmother sent round invitations to a big family reuinion party saying that everyone was coming even down to Charlie and he was 3 months away from popping out!

My midwife asked me if we would want to find out and when I said no she said we were in such a small minority these days, she hadn't had anyone for months that wasn't going to find out.

I did work with a girl who was told they were having a girl, so bought everything pink etc and it came out a boy!!

Actually, my midwife asked me the other day if we wanted to find out, and I said no. She was kinda surprised too, but then she told me that with her daughter she did find out, and straight away wished she hadn't. She said there aren't that many surprises like that in life and would liked to have just waited. I bet she doesn't say that to those who say they DO want to find out though...

We didn't findout with Paris, and it was nice to findout what she was once she was born. With Ayja we did, and we didn't tell anyone but 2 other people - (those people we trusted and talked to most, so we wouldn't go insane keeping it secret)   we found out so i could bond - had a bit of a worry since i had trouble bonding with Paris.. so wanted to know this baby as a she/he, not an it.. and call her by her name so that she was already like a little person not just the thing living inside me that was causing me no end of health probs and sleepless nights, lol. I loved knowing.

We also wanted to know so that we could find out if we needed anything extra, or if we could get away with all paris's hand-me-downs.. fair enough i still would have done heaps of shopping either way, and i still did, even though Paris had a heap of baby clothes, Ayja had twice as many, lol.

What you said Jen, about not telling anyone you know - is a good idea. we tried to get away with not letting anyone know that we knew - but they did, they knew that we were thinking of finding out, and my mum knew that my older sister knew etc.. and got her nose out of joint cos i didn't tell her - but she would have blabbed or let slip.. at least my older sister who knew lived the other end of the country and doesn't really talk to any other family.

If we had chosen to have more - i would have found out i think, but then maybe i would have changed my mind - because well - if we were having another girl then there's no way we needed more clothes etc, and well, if it was a boy, the i think it would be a nice surprise after going through labour.

With our firt we couldn't find out as he had his legs crossed the first scan and then was breach the second and couldn't see. I wasn't that worried with the first as I was happy with the surprise. The second we made sure we could find out as we wanted to stock up on nappies for this one and with Huggies you can only buy them in girls or boys so we needed to know.

We have told everyone this one is a boy but as for names that one won't happen till he is born.

Edited by mummy_becks