Ranty vent... or venty rant...

In the last month or so, Hannah has discovered my sister's make up in her room. She goes in and helps herself atleast once a day. We've all told her off, dragged her out screaming, and I've put her in time out for it many a time. As well as feeling absolutely terrible the times it has happened when Jute didn't know and I've had to tell her... the guilt! Argh!

The other night, after the 600th time that Hannah had got into it, Gaz said to Jute "Perhaps you should move it?" and Jute said "I shouldn't have to - she should just stay out of it" in a really sh*tty voice. I was absolutely bloody fuming. She's 2 years old!!!

Then tonight I realised that when Hannah had got in there this morning, I had forgotten to vacuum up the mess Han had made. Jute got sh*tty at me after I apologised (AGAIN) for Hannah going in there and she made a comment about everyone making sure the gate was up. Now that's fine and dandy... but when it's her room, I expect her to be responsible for her own stuff. I am sick to death about punishing Hannah for something that I consider my sister's fault for being selfish and lazy and refusing to move her make up (or take responsibility for the gate!)

And then Jute had the cheek to say "I've got some really expensive stuff in there." Yes. Yes you do - that's because it is mine!!!!!

I just want Jute to be as conscious about her stuff as I am about mine. My makeup is in my wardrobe on a shelf Hannah can't reach. Ooooo and Jute pulled the "Well, why don't you move out then?" Argh. She can move out. I like this house.

Righto... vent out. Please excuse me, have no one else to whinge to!

Edited by nikkiwhyte

Dont blame you for being frustrated. Im like that at mums, she has breakable things in stupid places like ceramic ugly chickens and frogs on the floor of course the kids are going to look and touch them!

hehe yeah I do actually, they are evil odd looking things and they are at the bottom of the step from the lounge, really easy to kick over as you walk down, what a shame they just dont seem to want to break.
I know kids have to learn not to touch but you cant expect to much from them at this sort of age.

hehe me too, Im in a real whatever, cant be bothered with cr*p type mood.

Nikki would your sister prefer to buy a small lock to go up high on the outside of her door, than bother with the gate? Just a thought...

But I'm sorry to say that she probably won't have any empathy for you/Hannah until she has had a 2yo.... and it seems that will be quite some time away.

Hope things settle down and Hannah starts behaving. She *should* know better but curiosity at this age....

lol nikki

Ok I think your sister should out her stuff away...come on this is a 2 year old, and no matter how much you tell her she will get in there...its her job!! It is a challenge for a two year old to see if she can get to it, specially because she is not allowed!!

And she is sharing a house with you and she is Hannah's Aunt so has some responsibilty toward what is left around the house. Katherine is right what if she eats some of those things??? GOD that would be dangerous!!! Can she live with that guilt??

Talk to her......with out trying to kill her!! and explaine that she needs to be responsible too...and since she is the one who thinks its a problem... that she should move out!!

ROFL - he probably had it coming

Poor you, Nikki! That is what happens when you live with a toddler. Non child people have such high and mighty ideas about those things. I remember, myeslf, saying when i was preg with fatty "i'm not putting anything away, baby will just have to learn not to touch"... EVIL LAUGH some mothers must have had when I popped out witht that gem. I went to a linen party the other day at my friend's place, and fatty was the oldest there by about 15 months, all the other mums had wee 8 week old bubbas, and fatty is allowed to do as he pleases at myt friends place, she is good witht that, fairly baby proof. Anyhow, one mum was cringing and dirty looking at me when jake was racing round, hands on tele etc. I got so fed up with the filthy looks and tsk tsking, i said in a big loud voice, well, this will be you lot in no time, so make the most of your high ideals.

I think I was saying in another post, a lot of people have completely unrealistic expectations of what children can and will do at certain ages. At this stage. hannah (and Jake) are experimenting...apparently with your sisters makeup! (hannah - not Jake - although he does have pretty painted toenails at the mo). I don't believe in putting EVERYTHING up as I want Jake and Taine to learn "no means no", HOWEVER if it is an issue of safety, then I'll do something. Eg.1 Jake taught Taine how to open the window that we have at ground level. Taine opens it and falls out. rather than saying "no taine' I got a latch for it. ...and told him no. It sounds like your sister is just being unrealistic in what she expects Hannah to be able to do at this stage.   She probably looks at her room and thinks "wooooo, shiney things". get her a big lockable makeup case for xmas.

as for the moving thing - it would be a lot less disruptive for two adults to move out, than for you and Hannah to move out - her routine would be disrupted. poor love!