How to get hubby to clean??? Help Please

OK this isn't my hubby, but someone elses (she is on here and her hubby knows about this site so didn't want to do the post). They both work fulltime and she is pregnant. Hubby won't start doing the housework unless she starts doing it first. At the stage she is at things like the smell of the dishwasher after the dishes are cleaned makes her sick and she will throw up after she has emptied the dishwasher as her hubby won't do it.

Any ideas on what to say to him so that he can start doing stuff around the home first without her having to start the housework first?

Tell hubby to start (and finish) it! Communication is key. Extremely unfortunate for us, husbands aren't mind readers so you've just got to talk to him.

She's hasn't spoken to hubby yet, shes not sure n how to approach the topic thats one thing she needs a bit of help on.

I agree...she just needs to talk to him. Sometimes these boys need explicit instructions!! It's not necessarily that they are doing it on purpose they just honestly don't think about it. Things bother us a lot sooner than it bothers them!

Tell him if he won't help he'll have to pay for a cleaner.

Yeah talk to him or another good way is get his mum to have a word to him. If you make a big deal out of it we men seen to shut down more.

With the dishwasher, tell him nicely ya can't do it and leave it with him, if its full only take out what ya need as you need it, if the dishers pile up on the bench, you can't cook tea till it is clear, sit down and wait. He will soon catch on when he gets hungry.

my DH knows I cannot empty the bottom drawer of the dish washer...I start gagging and get sick! go figure!!!
HE helps - but when he wants to...and when he does he does what he thinks needs done...i hate nagging and the arguments but sometimes i go there as i am so sickof it all....i cant help cause mine is useless 90% of the time...and 10 % helpful when he wants to be...oh and he does a load of washing but normally has a LOT more of HIS washing in than mine...probably cause he is by then running outta undies!!! MEN!!!
I blame the MIL - who used to do all his washing etc and come tidy up his flat when he was flatting on his own...silly cow look a t what she left me with!!!

Men are blind and don't see anything. Today was a good example. I was doing the dishes, lounge was filled with blocks (kids had just gone for a nap), washing in the basket - hubby yawns and said, well, if you don't need me to do anything I might just go and have a nap myself. I said "are you kidding", he said "well, what do you need me to do?" he honestly didn't notice...or if he did, he didn't consider that it needed cleaning! grr.

Pick a time when you are both NOT stressed or tired. You need to say that there are a few jobs around the house that you are finding tough - now cause you a pregnant, but you don't want to lumber him with all the work (as if,I know) so maybe you can work out whose responsible for what for a while. If you are both too tired, sersioulsy suggest getting a housekeeper. If you are on friendly terms with the MIL, get her to make a few sugfgestiongs like "oh, you need to do more around this house- you;ll get (wife) too tired!!"

Unfortunately it's just a man thing. You have to point things out to them otherwise they just don't see it and I don't think they are being lazy or inconsiderate - they just don't think like us. It's been a hard road getting used to asking my hubby to do things around the house and then leaving him to it. He honestly doesn't mind and gets $hitty with me when I don't ask him for help. He just can't see the things like I do

I am quite lucky as we share the household chores, and luckily for me there was only 1 of mine that I could no longer do - the shower, on hands and knees in a small cubical still makes me gag especially with the cleaner smells. I told dh that he would have to do it, and he was happy too, however it took about a week for that to happen, and then he did a great job on the floor and walls, but left the glass... go figure. Not wanting to nag I left it till the next week, his response, oh, I didn't even think of that MEN!

The best idea is to talk to him, when you aren't stressed or tired. If he has had to fend for himself before I would say it will be easier, but either way, as the pregnancy gets further along you will need help, and if he can't or wont, I say hire a cleaning lady!