Re: and the venue is

my Dh is in...and looking forward to it already...so hopefully you and some of the other dads can hook up and share war stories...altho not sure how my DH has managed to gain sympathy so well!!!! hmmmmmmm

I am sure most of the weekend will be all of us together...and not just the sat nite mums things...I hope where there are dads around - and i know not everyone on here has one involved...but where there is one that he can come and be involved too...

btw my DH is BSDH - when he remembers his password...LMAO!!!

aw... sorry did not mean to miss the dads out. My DH will probably come although I haven't discussed it with him - he is more the 'go with the flow' person.

yep - I did appologise because I forgot about the dads, but to be honest since I have been in these forums I have not heard one thing from a DAD on here except to announce the birth of their child - on their partners behalf.
But will make sure I think about the Dads nezxt time

yep, will be dragging mike as he's the only one who drives.. so as long as there's some other guys there that's all good.

*goes to find post that tells me where we are actually going*

my2angels wrote: Hey I resent being called sexist!!!! Maybe if the males spoke up a bit more we wouldnt forget about you and besides you should be happy we consider you one of the girls

What she said!

And BS if your DH needs some help to remember his password I can email it to him

rug_nz wrote: You may find that the males in this world are a bit shy to post because it's a bit of a mums club. I am a stay at home dad and have been for about 8 months, 99% of parenting sites and forums are aimed at just mums, I have joined a number of forums but only post in a few because hardly anyone cares what I have to say. My post count is over 30 so I have been around but don't feel welcome to post. I don't think any one person is a sexist (sorry my2angels) it just comes from the fact that most people think I am doing a "mums" job and therefore cannot do the job aswell as a mum can. How many mums groups do you know of, then try to think of any dads groups. Sorry i am dribbling on just trying to let you know how I'm thinking.

Just for the record - mums are shy to post too! I know I was... It becomes a bit of an "OhBaby Club" as opposed to a mums club... but I'm sure that is nothing compared to how a man might feel approaching the OhBaby club. (Oh and that is forum-wide... not just here)

Also, personally I don't feel that a dads view is any less valid than a mums. We are all learning here! I mean I've only been doing this job for 2 years and it keeps changing every day!!!

Sorry about this post - it's WAAAAAY off topic. Just wanted to let you know that we don't mean to exclude you Rug You can jump on it whenever you want and no one's going to be upset that it is a man posting!

I dont think of it in terms of a male/female segragation! If you want to get on here and moan about your DP (as we all like to do) or ask about feeding probs, queries etc... then no one on this site is going to ignore you or think you shouldnt be here because you are a male. Infact I didnt even realise you were a male till you pointed out. Possibly in your network/area there may be an expectation that it is the mum who stays at home but i know at the playgroup I go to for example there are often heaps of men that come along and everyone is made to feel welcome. Its like saying we dont listen to the TTC ladies because they havent experiences motherhood yet, thats just crap but the difference is they get on here and put thier two cents worth in and they are therefor included as one of club. If your feeling a bit left out then join in a bit more and make yourself heard. I think I can safely say that on this site no one is going to care if you are a man as long as your happy to hear about periods, breastfeeding, annoying partners and all that other lovely stuff.

Oh and I dont think looking after the kids is a womens job, in approx 1.5 years my hubby is going to take over staying at home while i go back to work so we both get to experience both sides of the coin and he is really looking forward to it!

Yeah on EBB it is ment to be dads only but always gets posted in by woman.


I use a big US based SAHD forum and they only have 770 dads on that, so getting males to post in NZ is going to be hard.

Thanks mum2emj

I just found something that you should all look at and what I am talking about and also what Mum2emj just said about changing the wording.

Look at the top two posts in   Product Reviews

Sorry to sound like a cow but im gonna roll my eyes.

This is nothing compared with the sexism we face as women and as mothers (heck its not even sexism), the only thing that has changed in the years is that some men will stay at home with their children while the mother works but yet i bet she is still criticised that she is working and not at home raising the kids and cooking dinner, making sure the house is clean and that there is food in the cupboards.

In regards to the topics in the product reviews, do u go in and place ur input much? How are we supposed to remember in this sea of women that there is a man swimming along somewhere? Perhaps having more say in topics may make you more familiar to us?

To me it sounds like your coping with some PMS and need to take a breather dont fuss over something so trivial and maybe get more involved on here then maybe you wont have this problem!