GGGRRR!! Mr Attitude!!!!!!!

You say he has just started daycare... is going there, or something that is there, making him anxious?

I would say he has learnt a thing or 2 from the older chidlren at the daycare. I noticed that when Andrew moved from the nursery to the preschool he learnt new words and new phrases that weren't said at home. I spoke with one of the teachers that I know quite well and she said that there are a few 4 year olds that love to say things they know they aren't meant to around the "babies" of the preschool. We tell Andrew not to listen to them and that they are naughty for saying those things. One of the other teachers told us that after we said that him she heard him saying it to one of the four year olds and the 4 year old didn't know what to do as she had never had a "baby" tell her what to do. And as Andrew is a tall boy she was a little indimidated by Andrew and has learnt her lesson on speaking. I also watch Andrew when I pick him up how he is at mat time to see if that is anything to go by, but he is usually very good but watching other children that are misbehaving.

Def talk to the teachers, also if he has a primary carer speak with her (asuming its a "her ) as she will be getting to know him as well.

yup! he has picked up some terrible things from daycare!!!! my nephew also goes to the same one and my sis spews over the same issues!!! one of those BIG issues is that Bay and Oakley (nephew) have been getting bullied by a 4yr old who is the size of a 7 yr old!!!!!. Bay loved to go in the early weeks but lately he has been very scared and telling me that R**** is pushing him over and hitting him and this is the same kid that my sister has complained about for picking on Oaks!! i wasnt able to see anyone yesterday and Bay isnt going tommorow (we are going to Tauranga to visit friends for the day) but on his next day there i will be making a big complaint because obviously this boy has not learnt his lesson and i know that there is always a bully in every school BUT when my happy go lucky child is to scared to go to school!! then i draw the line because this boy has already had several complaints according to my sis!!...next step - to take the bully out of there!!!!..it has happened with a few other kids who havnt toned down so why not this one!

OK rant over!!!! ypu that probably is why he is a toad! but my god!! im going nutts!!!!

Yeah i will certainly go down hard on the parents of this bully because i may be inclined to let up a bit if it was a one off but this bully has been picking on Oakley (my nephew) for over a year and also picks on other kids and obviously the complaints arnt doing much to change this childs behaviour!! the daycare is always putting this boy on the naughty mat and the parents have been spoken to about the other complaints but still he is the same!! so at the risk of sounding a bit harsh! - if he isnt going to buck up his ideas then he needs to go!!! he is way bigger than my 4yr old nephew littlelone my son!!! so its just not acceptable.

Yeah, right with ya on that one Liz!

But I've heard 3 is a terribly delightful age... I've heard it was the parent of a 3 year old that made up the whole "terrible twos" things as a sick joke.