To find out or to wait

Hi mybelly. We tried to find out with our first 2 children, but couldn't see both times. I came out of those scans quite disappointed. However, when bubs popped out it was awesome having that surprise!! Yes it helps to know when setting up baby's room & buying clothes, but we just got a few unisex clothes & the minute baby was born we got sooo many clothes in either pink or blue so didn't need to worry so much about what the baby was going to wear.

With this one, we were going to try & find out once again what it was, but then I decided that I liked the surprise at the end instead & didn't ask to see what it was. My hubby wanted to know everytime, but this time I said no, we have a name for both boy & girl & plenty of unisex clothes now too.

Not sure if this helps!! But just my experience anyway.

We have found out for a few reasons: We are impatient as anything. We wanted to know what colour to paint the room (even though we ended up choosing a unisex colour) and also wanted to know what colour clothes etc. I personally don't like most of the unisex clothes, it gets a bit boring and didn't want to just wait til he was here to go for a good shop for clothes either.

we found out with mikey and it was really good because then we could tell everyone and we got given some reeeally cute boys stuff when he was born but in saying that, it did take something away from the actual moment of birth.

I've had both, and personally my advice would be wait... I really don't thnk it made me bond more with Charly than Jacob, honestly, I personally (and not judging here, ladies) think the whole "bonding" thing is a crock of $hite. You will bond with your baby just fine, I promise!! I'm really a don't open the pressy till xmas kinda girl... (only found out wiht #2 to tell my dying dad)

Our first we wanted to and couldn't until the last scan 4 days before I had him and I was too angry to even bother finding out. Second I had to know as I wanted to buy Huggies for a boy or girl and so we could paint the bedroom the right colour. If we have a next one not sure will have to get back to you.

We wanted to find out but she wouldn't share, I was really dissappointed at the time (I'm totally a pressie shaker ) but it was kinda cool to have it announced that we had a beautiful baby girl
We had unisex stuff to last the first weeks or so and when I was up to it we went and spent A LOT of money on girly stuff

Don't know what I'd do next time as I still have those unisex NB clothes

Oh yeah, another bonus of not finding out is that you can make money off people and their willingness to enter into wagers on the sex... I feel this is only fair seeing as you have to go through the pregnancy and deal with all the "unpleasantries" by yourself.

Its a bit of a myth about the heartbeat thing I think. Both my boy & girl had quite fast heartbeats - over 150. This one has been around 140 - 150 so can't tell either way.

Everyone says if its a fast heartbeat its a girl... my MW has always said the opposite! Think she's the only one though.

Do you have a feeling as to what it is?

I want to find out, DH hasn't decided what he wants to do. I'm too impatient and also I want to get things sorted before DH goes overseas (away while bubs is born and for the 4 months after). I think for him, it would be nice to connect with the child more knowing the gender before he goes away. That way I also don't have to worry about trying to remember two choices for names!

Birth itself will be surprise enough for me.

We finally found out at our growth scan last week after an unobliging bubs at the previous scans. Both of us wanted to know - we are both planners and while i have yet to buy anything pink since finding out, I feel better prepared mentally (not that we cared either way).

it does cut down the list of names you need to look at by 50% too, which is a bonus.