Role M v’s F

I am interersted to know who does what at your place in regards to the children.

Who takes care of bathing them?
Who takes care of dinner?
Who changes them when needed? (including soiled)

I do it all, other than the 1 - 2 hours at night when DH gets home before me. He plays with him till I get home. Then I take over....not on purpose, it is just what happens in my house. (sometimes good but also sometimes not so good!)
I know culture has a lot to do with it for us.......

Bathing - I usually have a bath with Josh and then DH will dress him. Or DH will bath him in the baby bath and then I dress him. Andrew has a shower so does it by himself but either one of us (whoever is not busy with Josh so usually DH) will help him into his PJ's

Dinner - I usually make dinner and DH finishes it off by dishing it up. Andrew feeds himself and I feed Josh while eating mine and then once DH has finished dinner he takes Josh and I finish my dinner.

Changing - I usually me, but DH will do it when he needs to.

I do everything being a single mum but in saying that I have an awesome 11yr old always quick to help out.

Bathing: I bath with Alize and she gets him out and gives his a massage till Im dressed.

Dinner: I cook and she looks after Alize while Im busy in the kitchen.

Changing Nappies: I can say that I am the only one that has ever changed Alize nappy so far but that may change tomorrow as Leish is having him while I get my hair done and he may just brew something up for her lol

 

Who takes care of bathing them?  DH does this job.  If I do the dishes he does the bathing.  I would rather do the dishes as I know they are done in HOT soapy water!! (LOL)

Who takes care of dinner?  I also take care of the dinner.  I normally prepare in the morning, so just need to put on in the evening.

Who changes them when needed? (including soiled) Obviously I do this throughout the day.  DH sometimes does, in the weekend!

I normally do most around the house, as I am at home with the kids, and DH is working.  I don't really expect him to come home and do much.  He plays with the boys lots though, and as a male, he winds them all up before bedtime!

Bathing- Mostly hubby. He insisted while I was pregnant that it will be his main job as he doesnt need me for it.

Feeding-Mostly me. I am a SAHM so knows what she had already to eat so it is better if just one of us feed her. But he will quite happy spoon feed her if need be and he sorts breakfast out one day on a weekend for me. Bfding-well duh dont need to answer that one. Me.

Changing nappies- Hubby changed her first few nappies in hospital and whoever has her and she needs a change, change. So I do it more often as I stay home during the day but he changes quite often on weekends and at night.

Discipline is both of us. Playing. Both of us. My friends in SA use to complain about all parenting that he does do as their hubby's dont see it as their job. Hubby however enjoys his child and that is why he had kids. To spent time with them and take care of them.

Me, me and me, it's all about me

Willie occasionally feeds them, only if I delegate out tho. And he changes them only when he's looking after them by himself. And he never baths them as he works with chemicals at work that can absorb into his skin and might contaminate the water. He has to shower/bath before he can even pick them up when he comes home.

I always panic when I have to leave them with him, and it is always for nothing, they all have a great time. I'm just a total control freak and have trouble letting go. Plus he doesn't do things MY way, and of course my way is the RIGHT way

Bathing - usually DH, although I often come in and sit with them and dry her off, then he dresses her.

Dinner - who is up for cooking duty tends to alternate between us a bit, but I will usually do all the prep (ie: veggies etc)

Nappies - as I am at home with DD during the day I change her as needed, but DH is usually fine in the evenings / weekends if need be.

I always do the cooking = i enjoy it and 4 out of 7 weeknights hubby is working. bathing is done by hubby whenhe's home and I'll do the dishes while he does that - although when he's home often he'll say to leave them and he'll do them after the kids go down.

disciplining is both of us. hubby is often home during the day so it is quite equal in that respect. nappies who ever smelt it, deals with it.

hhhm Bathing.. if i'm home it's me, If i'm at work mike does it but usually we will map out what nights i have to work and he'll get me to bath them the night before or something so that he only has to bath them every 2nd day .. therefore minimising the bathing necessity for him.. although he is much better with it now, but doesn't like the washing the hair part, so that's all me.

Dinner, to be completely honest, 9 times out of 10 it's mike, while i bath the kids etc, he just gets stuff started without me asking, although i am relegated to stirfrys etc cos he can't get them right he reckons.. lol that's fine by me.. i guess it's 50/50 but it does seem like he cooks alot cos if i'm on afternoons, again, he cooks for him and the girls.

Nappies, we take turns, normal ones are fine, we don't really mind who does it, dirty ones we run on a "i did it last time" basis, either that or the "bags-not" routine, lol

Bathing - Well mostly DH showers with Alyssa or we put her in the bath with Alex (9) and sit in there and watch her. I usually dress her as DH says it's too hard and takes him too long which gets Alyssa frustrated

Dinner - Mostly DH as he is a better cook, but sometimes me and sometimes Natasha (11) she loves to cook spag bol. If Alex helps then it's really me as I can't leave her to cook by herself.

Nappies - Mostly me as I'm home during the day, Next is Alex as she is such a little mummy she even does the poopy one's, Natasha will sometimes do wet only ones and DH least of all. Not sure why he won't do them much now he was heaps better with the two older girls.