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My boy is definately closer to my parents than the others.....
The outlaws live in the same town as us whereas my parents live 2 hours away.

I said to DH last night, we need to make an effort.....but you know what why can't they come to us. It is too blardy hard to get a 2 year old to sit for 2 mins let alone 2 hours!
Rant over........
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Well, mum has been staying at my house since Thomas arrived (2 weeks) with her partner so I get lots of help. Matts parents live in chch and are about a 45min drive away. My dad lives in the bay of islands and is a 1:20 flight to auckland, then 35min flight to BOI. I hate being so far away from my dad, but the reality was that if I needed help, then moving to rangiora from auckland to be with mum was the best option.
I cant wait til Thomas is a bit more settled in a routine and I can fly up to see dad :D Will be nice for all of us!
Alex, Thomas and Lily
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When I was growing up I was closer to my Dad's parents because I lived in the same country and My Mums where in a diff country. So Geography made a difference. But having said that recently we tried to get close to my Mums Mum (and to make it clear my mum is not close to her mum) and we spend oads of money bringing her to NZ.....fell flat on our face and now we dont even talk to her. My dads mum is here and I am still very close to her.

Zaara is close to my Mum and Dad...dont know why? They live 5 min away from us and MIL (FIL paased away before DH and I got married) lives 20 min from us. We go to MIL for dinner once a week and to my parents once a week. But Zaara loves my parents and wont come home with us...on the other hand she is not so keen to go in to the house when we pull over at MIL's.

Not sure why tho as both sets of G/Parents love Zaara to bits and spoil her rotten.

I think Zaara is lucky to have her G/Parents so close by.


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Originally posted by pepsi pepsi wrote:



Anyway, from talking to a couple of people it sounds like it is quite common when a woman has a baby that she ends up closer to her own parent/s, and in turn, the grandkids are closer to their maternal grandparents. I have been told by an older woman at work that she is definitely closer to her daughter and her grandchildren than the grandchildren of any of her 3 adult sons. Those grandkids tend to be closer to the maternal grandparents..



WOW! click!! this makes so much sense to my situation!!

mine is a long story but in short - DHs folks ALWAYS (like every weekend!) have DHs sisters 3 kids but they have only had Bay once in 4 years!! AND WE ALL LIVE IN THE SAME TOWN!

my boys are closer to my mum especially bcos we live across the road and have lived with her for a year and she looks after the boys often.

It has bugged me to no end about DHs folks but now after reading that i somehow get it...although i dont excuse it as they are adults and should show equal attention!
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Growing up we had my paternal grandparents in the same town, and my maternal ones an hours drive away in Welly. Was definitely closer (or perhaps favoured) my mum's parents, but they passed away when I was in my teens, and since then I've become way closer with my dads parents. It was hard when I was younger, as my dad died when I was 5, and for whatever reason my mum and nana (dad's mum) had a massive falling out and didn't speak for about 15 years. They get on well now though thank goodness, and I love my nana to bits.

With Joshua, DP's parents are here in Auckland, and my mum in Welly so he obviously sees a lot more of the in-laws. And he totally adores them. But when we go to Welly, he just adores my mum too.

I can see though that the inlaws will more than likely be favoured, which makes me a bit sad cos my mum is just the doting grandmother. Very hard living so far away.
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