What ’dumb’ thing.....

Not much to go on as yet, but I always feel guilty when I start sounding like my Mother.

That my child went in an ambulance before he can even say the word. That we thought he was better and then suddenly he wasn't.
That I didn't shove the wonky mole Drs otoscope in her ear when she got impatient with my child.
That when I snapped at wonky mole Dr I only gave her a half serve of what she was ordering.

And some days, I gotta say, for the way I dressed him

I try not to feel guilty too often, as mums we are already too hard on ourselves as it is and we all try our best, which is all that matters really!

But... Dh and I had maccas one day at the mall for lunch and we gave Jackson some chips We got all sorts of looks and steers from people.

I feel guilty that I wish DS would hurry up and learn to play on his own, I'm so frustrated at constantly having to be his entertainment or if I'm not then I get hounded for teeeveeee.

I feel a bit guilty that I was well and truly ready to give up BFing at 17mths and that I didnt really take the time to say goodbye to that part of our relationship even tho DS was okay about it within a couple of days.

I feel guilty that I forget he is only just two (or will be in a couple of weeks) and I might expect too much of him at times.

I feel guilty that I'm very seriously not even seriously considering trying for a VBAC with next baby, the more I think about it the more appealing an elective c section is

I feel guilty that its such an effort to BF. Probably every day atm I'm talking (read bawling my eyes out) to DP about whether I should give up or not. I feel really guilty coz he was a total booby baby but I really pushed the bottle coz I was so exhausted and freaking about PND and within 6 weeks I'm finding the BFing so difficult. I feel silly coz it makes me sob like a baby to consider giving up but the thought of not having to subject my poor nipples to the cold every few hours is soooo appealing!! I have decided that if I'm not totally confident and happy to give it up then I should perservere coz otherwise I'll beat myself up over it. I feel silly too coz I had no problem putting Jake on the bottle (though he was never able to latch by himself and I pumped or used nipple shields for just over 6 weeks) and thought I'd have no problems if I had to make that decision with Tyler.

I feel guilty that I expect too much of Jake when hes still really a baby himself. I feel extra guilty when hes being difficult and I flashback to his biological dad and get all angry and distressed at Jake because of it.

hmmm lol sounds more like a confession of hidden sins

TheKelly wrote: Julz, better to be raised in a happy household with one parent who loves you , than in an unhappy house with 2 unhappy parents who don't care much about you at all . Its him whos missing out , and its his loss .

Agree, my family never like my DP as he 'never tried' in school etc, and that was a 'big deal' from my family where every one went to Uni and got good degrees but here I am pregnant at 19 in my first year of Uni and DP failed his first year and dropped out to play computer games! *shame!* And they kept telling me to leave him but I knew we were happy, perhaps in dream land? Who knows? but DD is happy, we're happy and now DP is passing his new degree with a B+ average and my family have finally 'accepted' him. But I have always told them, the main thing is Lily's happiness and health, followed by mine.
My family also though that DP would lose interest in her, but he hasn't and they can't believe his love for her.

So what I am trying to say is, try not to feel guilty Julz, so long as she is happy and you are happy is the main thing, it's his loss completely.

My father walked out when I was under a year, never saw him until I was 15 ad he decided he wanted a relationship and told me all this crap that "He sent presents yearly, letters, wanted to come visit" - but he never did. Even now, I am the one who has to make an effort for us to meet up so what's the point.

And I try not to feel guilty either because Lily is happy and healthy and growing at a rate of knots so clearly I am doing something right!

Another thing I have started feeling guilty about is people whose baby's sleep through the night, I knew not all babies do, I didn't until I was past 6 months, but lately DD has started waking 4-5 times a night rather than her usually 1-3 times and I used to feed her but now I try anything to get her to sleep without a feed, especially if it's an hour after her last feed. In the end I feed her but I feel so guilty about trying to distract her!!

Go you girls having the courage to go it alone when your baby's daddy wasn't up to scratch. Must be such a tough choice and bloody hard being solo parent. I'm always telling dh that i am never leaving him cos i couldn't do it alone! And if he leaves me, he'd better take the kids too lol!

My mum left my dad when i was 2 as he was a violent alki and thank god she did.