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I'd be pissed! Lol I threaten them bad I know but nobody touches my baby when they should know better and gets away with it
I'd have grabbed the brat and made her apologise to Oli then taken her to her mum and told her to mind her kid or leave!
Jakes a great little guy, very friendly and interactive and I won't let my child suffer because other parents are useless.
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If they were little as well, eg toddlers and weren't doing it to deliberatly hurt but more as a curiosity thing "what happens if I pinch them " then I would be pretty lenient , I expect my child to get hurt sometimes and toddlers all in one area-well it comes with the territory .

But if they are older children picking on kids younger than them , well thats different , because thats bullying , using their age and size to their advantage .


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Oh yeah same here they're all learning at that younger age and need to be directed not disciplined.
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For me I think it depends on the ages of the kids involved as well as the "aggresiveness" of the act.

When McKayla was smaller and didnt have the vocab to actually deal with the situation I would intervene really quickly by either removing her from the situation, talking to the other child, or taking that child to the parent. If the other kid was more or less same age or a toddler I would talk to teh parent and let them deal with it.

Now that she is bigger I get her to put her hands out and say stop. I still keep an eye on it the whole time and if it looks like it is going to get out of hand or the other child is a lot bigger I tell them straight off, whether the parents are there or not. (say a 6 or 7 year old child). If there is any real physical violence with a child that know they shouldnt be doing it I immediately tell them off for it and then talk to McKayla about what to do in a situation like that.

As for going up slides. No problem with that but she knows to get off when someone is at teh top waiting. What grieves me is when a child is going down and another one immediately follows without the other one of the slide first. I HATE that. They can damage kidneys that way.


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Originally posted by SMoody SMoody wrote:

For me I think it depends on the ages of the kids involved as well as the "aggresiveness" of the act. 

Absolutley. This particular park is pretty busy most of the time, and often (as its designed for them) is full of littlies. I dont have an issue when toddlers get rough with each other, but I ALWAYS watch Oli very carefully and reinforce to him to use gentle hands, and I would like to think that most other parents would do the same.

I agree with Bizzy - you dont want to have to follow your kid around the whole time and do everything with them, but I guess I have an expectation that parents will moniter their childrens behaviour and whilst Oli is still little I guess that means I will follow him around a bit! I like to try and let him play with other kids without my involvment, but he is still quite little for his age, so sometimes I feel a bit overprotective.

In this particular case, the child knew exactly what she was doing. When she did it I said to her quite sternly "You saw he was there, didnt you. It wasnt very nice to kick him over, you need to be more careful around the little kids". I was so peeved because her mother didnt even notice - either the incident or me telling her child off.

I am working hard at making sure that Oli understand the consequences of his actions, if he continues to be rough with a child, I pick him up and remove him from the situation.

I know that different parents have different parenting styles, and I am cool with that, but I guess I expect my toddler to be able to play happily without being beaten, kicked, punched or bitten by other kids.

 
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Originally posted by kabe kabe wrote:

SimSam, I often feel like I'm the playground police! I have no hesitation in telling kids off , who're old enough to know better. Nothing annoys me more than poorly supervised kids being rough in playgrounds.


Me too. I have no problem telling other kids off at all and I always make it in earshot of the Mother.

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I would have told the 7 year old off as well, at 7 they are well old enough to know better.
Younger , I would tell them to be gentle, I wouldn't tell them off so much (by younger I mean toddlers ) ,but I would also expect their parents to tell them to be gentle as well


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I would have told the 7 year old off as well, at 7 they are well old enough to know better.
Younger , I would tell them to be gentle, I wouldn't tell them off so much (by younger I mean toddlers ) ,but I would also expect their parents to tell them to be gentle as well


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Yup i would say something to the child at that age they should know better. I would prehaps just say to watch out for the smaller kids and that wasn't very nice maybe you should say sorry.

We live beside a playground there are soo many lazy parents out there it really gets on my nerves. Some can't park the car on the street they drive into the playground and watch from the car. Most of the time the kids are well behaved and nothing bad happens. we often keep an eye on kids in the park if their parents aren't about just in case something happens. i recently had to take a prockle out of a kids foot he was in barfeet and said to him next time it might pay to have shoes on so this doesn't happen again low and behold he was back in the park again later that week still in barefeet. He would have been around 6 i'm guessing
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