Telling off other people’s kids

I have before and won't hesitate, normally its a situation of playgroup or something.

I don't care if people tell DD off, but she's a little ish at times Nah I'm happy for people to pull up behaviour such as hitting and that if its a deliberate hit, if its something out of frustration then I'm likely to redirect the energy and if kids are like Bizzy said having a tussle over toys, or something then I'm not too fussed I just don't like the deliberate hits over the head THATS when I step in. And I'm going to contradict myself now as I tell DD off for stealing toys of her cousin, but he's a sook and I mean that in the nicest possible way and although there are only 6weeks between them she is far more advanced in her movements and what she understands then him and if she had her way she would take every toy off him only to dump it on the other side of the room as he still can't walk

If people are telling their kids off for being mean to DD I normally tell them not to bother as she needs to be cut down a peg or two and learn to interact with kids.

Gosh thats scary jazzy, way over the top.

I wouldn't mind anyone kindly telling off DD and moving her away from something dangerous.

I'm a bit leary about telling off other peoples kids but I would step in if they were physically harming my daughter OR they were in danger of harm themselves.

Jazzy,you should have kicked him, that is WAY OTT .

A couple of years ago I picked C up from school and there was a kid in the sand pit throwing sand in all the other kids faces and generally being a little sh*t, he was around 4 too,so imo old enough to know better, and his mother was nattering with another mother on the other side of the playground, so I went over and told him not to do that....next thing I know hes telling his mum and she marches over and swears at me for telling off her kid .
I looked her in the eye,raised one eyebrow and I can't remember it word for word,but I basically told her that since she was too busy to watch her child throw sand and make other kids cry that was her business but I wasn't going to stand around and do nothing.

...I made a thread about it, I should have a look and see what I actually said.


Another incident (not involving me ) a few kids were playing in the long jump sand and one of the boys accidentally threw sand in another girl's face, his mother refused to make him say sorry since it was an accident, im sorry,but accident or not, kids still need to learn to apologise if they hurt someone,intentionally or not, its just manners, anyway, long story short, the mum of the girl and the mum of the boy never spoke to each other again, was amusing to watch .
The boy really is a sh*t, I had the priviledge of seeing for myself what hes like, suffers from small man syndrome I think....

lizzle wrote: I';m another teacher who is always telling off kids. last time i was at the pool, i was telling off someone for jumping around in the passive pool. noticed later they were around 25 years old....

hahaha

chelle wrote: jazzy wrote: Bizzy wrote: oh and wanted to say if i saw another parent i didnt know "march over' and tell my child off i might be a bit pissed. especially if she stood over them and did it! and i am also the sort of mother that prefers to let kids sort their own conflict out - so if i saw two similarly aged kids have an argument or tussle over a toy i would just watch and see how it progresses before stepping in... and i have seen eden get up after being pushed and push back - its how they learn to stand up for themselves. Thats not to say if i saw a child being inappropriate or dangerous that i wouldnt step in immediately though. Totally agree Cooper is only 11 months though, so not really at the age to sort things out himself. But if a bit older that's probably a good idea.

Oh yea Cooper is so little - of course your natural reaction would tell them off if there's no one else stepping in and doing it, and I know you well enough to know you wouldn't stand over a child and intimidate them - not your style.   If no one else is stepping in and saying it's not ok, you've got to protect your child. I would be absolutely fine if someone told my son not to hit - especially if he was at an age to know better.

I don't have a problem telling off kids but usually if I see something & a parent doesn't stop it, ie a hit that doesn't overly hurt the other child I won't step in, ie let them sort it themselves but if that child goes to do it again I'll step in if the parent doesn't, if it's involving a child of a younger age I'll stop it straight away.

We had a child who's just turned 3 ramming a bike into other kids, the first mum told him off cause he was harming her child & his mother wasn't around. We fended him off doing it to any other kids but then we noticed he was belining for this crawling baby and hit it, but his mother turned up on the scene for that one & to her credit she actually did tell him off but the way she told him off was like he does it often so we were intrigued that she wasn't watching him like a hawk the whole time!

So yes when the situation warrants it then yes tell off my child & I'll tell yours off too