Waiting for natural m/c

Oh no monkeys, hopefully they can still do the op, keep us updated, fingers crossed for you.

Well mine ended up happening really fast after all, it started late last night, needless to say I haven't had too much sleep. It has been fairly heavy, but not too painful which I'm surprised as I have endo so was expecting the worse. I have taken the day off work, I have had so much time off lately.

Just stopping in to fill you guys in on the rest of my story.
Well Thursday came and still no natural m/c, so off to the hospital I went. I must say the staff at Waikato were awesome - I can't say enough about them.
I think part of the reason I wanted natural was because I was so scared of the procedure and going under anaesetic etc, but all went well, was only under for about 20 mins.
I have felt a real relief since, the waiting not knowing when it would happen, and being worried everytime I wen to the bathroom - especially at work was taking more out of me than I realised I think, and on reflection I think if I could go back in time, I would probably elect to have the D&C from the start, it has given me closure and as much as I wish my little angel was still with us, I can now move on.
It is a real personal decision as to which way to go, and I was so sure that I wanted to go the natural way - but think the procedure was right for me, so any ladies not sure of which way to go, don't feel pressure either way but the procedure was much better than I ever thought.
Time for me to move to the TTC threads - and see if I can have more luck next time Take care

to everyone in here who is going through this terrible time. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. I am crying for you all

I guess its been a while since OP, but I’m wondering the same thing. Mitten I can understand you hating the hospital experience, especially if they booted your man out. I mean, what are you supposed to do, the whole point of being there is to have your baby taken out, there’s no distraction, nothing to get on with or feel “normal” doing except wait and sit tight while they do what they need to?

I’ve just found out I’ve had another missed mc, I should be 10 weeks on Thursday, but scan shows baby stopped growing at 6w3d, so its been over 3 weeks in there. Some spotting, but that’s been intermittent over the entire pregnancy, and has pretty much stopped in the last 2-3 weeks anyway. No cramping.
I had missed mc last year, found out at 13w2 and had misoprostol at 13w5d as nothing seemed to be moving. Baby was measuring 8w1d then. I tried everything that weekend (found out on a Friday), cleaned the house, hoovering, also dug the garden. We completely blitzed an area of wasteland at the back and dug in a vege garden over 2 days – major physical work. It didn’t start anything though.

Ideally I would prefer for this mc to happen naturally. I don’t know if this is how it works, but I feel like my body needs to recognise its time to let go and figure out what it needs to do, instead of having this induced. DP doesn’t want unnecessary chemicals (ie miso) although I know ultimately its up to me what I do. I definitely don’t want D+C if I can avoid that. Considering acupuncture too.

Mitten: “all my symptoms just disappeared, boobs deflated, could suddenly stay awake after 9pm, ravenous hunger tapered off”

Yes! This is what happened to me, maybe a week after though. I won’t say I knew, but I was pretty convinced.

I’m interested in the avoiding of early scans . . . I have read that the professionals don’t know for sure that ultrasound is 100% safe, but when I’ve asked sonographers (I’ve been especially jumpy about the transvaginal ones) they’ve said its completely safe. Of course.
In my case, 2 missed miscarriage, I would much rather know if the baby is gone as there’s no way of knowing otherwise. I had an early scan at 5 weeks, but that was because I was spotting, had low hcg’s, one sided pain, and didn’t want to be on tropical island holiday with an 8-9 week ectopic.
Guess with early scans (with me) its 6 of one, half a dozen of the other.


Love to you all, espec Monkeys and Cherub - from the March11 thread