Large families 4 or more kid’s

We have 4 daughters and we have the opposite. we have EVERYONE telling us we should have another as we are such great parents and we need a little boy. All our friends and family are telling my DH not to get the snip and just have 1 more. if I was a good pregnant person or had a surrogate I would have a bigger family.

There was only me and my brother growing up and when he died at 20 I have felt so alone and I decided the day I lost him that I was having more than 2. 4 is perfect for me at the moment and the sooner Dh can get the snip the better as I may waver and want another little one.

We have 6 children. 10, 7, 4, 3, 21months and 3 months. I have became quite snappy at people when they made remarks such as dont you have a tv and would reply to them, yes we have a 50" LCD full HD tv that we paid cash for wat about you. Ive also had comments on how will we afford them all as they grow, people that couldnt understand how we could be so excited as I reached full term with our last baby, the list goes on. Its none of their business how we will afford anything, why do they need to be told that there is money set aside for schooling if and when they need it. Our children all get new clothes, have labelled clothing/bags, do at least 2 extra curricular activites (eg gym, dancing, music), go on all the school camps, trips, photos the list is endless. We badly wanted a large family that throughout our whole relationship we have worked to be able to live comfortably and have 6 children that we can spend quality time with. We have just reached another goal of buying a cafe, which will also give us more income and allow DH to spend a lot more time will all the children (he currently works nights and doesnt see our children at school as much as he would like). This has also pulled remarks such as your mad, how will you do it, wont you be tired. I got tired when I only had 1 child, and I get tired now no more no less. Sometimes you just have a bad day.

Our view is if you want something bad enough you find a way to do it.

Im just as proud to be a mum of 6 as I was when I was a mum of 1. A mum is a mum and noone can take that away.

I was an only child and DH was 1 of 6.

yeah that was a classic when I was preggy with emily.   O I bet you are hoping for a girl I was so honest tho and said na I actually find girl's scare me so another boy would be great. Don't get me wrong I love having my girl's, but I think people assume too much sometimes. Thanks for all the encouragement its been awsome made me feel a whole lot better about our choice. And so good to hear from people who are doing it and loving it.

if i started having kids when i was younger i would definitelty have more kids... i love being pregnant and i love babies - and i think i am getting better at parenting as we go along too.

When i was pregnant with eden lots of people would comment on about having a girl and even now they assume i got pregnant so i could have a girl, as if i could plan it... when in fact gender has never been an issue for me either and i would have been very happy to have three boys.

I suppose you could handle the comments a couple of different ways. if it was a comment from a stranger you could act stupid and make out youdont even know how you keep getting pregnant... and if it was friends making comments then i think honesty is the best way - tell them our financial business is not anyone elses concern or the third option is just smile and nod and change the subject.

Emiloly
yeah that is a classic I have heard that with my 4 oh what a busy lady tou must be. Like really you think lol.

Becks, My son was born on Valentines day too :)

I have 4 kids - and I am the first one to say I never in my wildest dreams thought I would have four. Always imagined having 2. But curcumstances change and so here we are with 4 and I love it. Wouldn't be without either one of them.

BUT thats it for us - four is enough (for us) and so I got my tube tided with my ceasarean iwth Elodie (or Dh would of had the snip and still might to make doubly sure)

I don't mind the comments people say to me about having 4 - infact I get a kick out of it.

When I was pregnant people assumed it was my first and when I said Nope my 4th I loved seeing their faces - and infact I wanted to say it was my 10th now that would of been funny.

All infact everyone has an opinion and I am the first to put my hand up and think your mad (in the nicest possible way ofcause) BUT its your decision and no one else (well your hubbies too) You are the one who knows your limit and I get you when you say 'someone' feels missing as that is one of the reasons we went on to have Elodie cause we kept on thinking someone was waiting to join us.

I say go for it - if you are emotionally, finanically and well I know your a good parent so whats to stop you!

Tassia wrote: Chickaboo wrote: When I was pregnant people assumed it was my first and when I said Nope my 4th I loved seeing their faces - and infact I wanted to say it was my 10th now that would of been funny. Yea I loved doing that too........

yeah ditto I got that with Emily oh is this your first when I said it was my 4th I was then informed I looked too youg to have 4 lol I am 29 year old.

hehe I was a wee bit older than you girls having my fourth but I am blessed with young looking genes so they assumed I was younger - which I can totally handle