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JAFAjaffa 
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 Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:56pm |
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My DH is really good - and I never give him the opportunity to forget since I make a huge fuss about my birthday month, birthday week etc. This year is our first on one income, so it'll be a bit different - I've asked for a haircut somewhere nice and for him to make a nice dinner (not one of our 20minute ones that we do during the week!). Next year we'll go back to going out for dinner - when we're back to 2 incomes and bubby is a bit older!
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:02pm |
Man, I wish I never started this thread as it just made me feel sorry for myself haha! I told DH it hasn't been such a great day, apparently he did the lunch dishes before work, so that was his way of making my birthday great. YAY!!! 
I've just cracked open a bottle of wine so that should keep me happy, I might just leave the dinner dishes for him when he gets home at 11.30pm, since it was my birthday treat and all 
Thanks ladies!!!
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:05pm |
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You should tell him in a couple of days what you had hoped for otherwise he's never gonna get the hint and you will be disappointed all over again next year. All that really needs to be said is that it would be appreciated by you if we could budget for my birthday as well as yours so we can both get special treats on our birthday.
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:14pm |
Yeah I already have. Apparently he is trying to really hard to keep to a budget this fortnight, unlike me. Hmmm... never mind the $40 you spent last week on a Rugby league bet 
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:25pm |
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okay, my hubby is wonderful, but CRAP when it comes to presents. About seven years ago, he asked me "what do you want", i said "nothing' when in reality I meant "I want you to show how much you love me by buying me a truly meaningful gift". then he got me nothing. and I sulked. We now have an agree4ment.
I arrange in the budget enough money to get me gifts...everytime. then i make a list about what I want. And then I act surprise when I get my present. romantiv? no. but we are both happy and I have accepted that this is it. when he does surprise me with something, it is lovely.
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:52pm |
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
 kaiz231 wrote:
Is there anyone that gets absolutely nothing? I would have been happy with a wee note or something nice to say he loves me - even a bottle of wine?! |
*raises hand slowly with a sad look on my face*
I put it down to the fact that DH's family doesn't really celebrate anything - birthdays or Christmas really. This year I didn't even get a homemade card from the kids and I had had about 3 texts from my family (we were out of town) before he said "oh yeah suppose I should say Happy Birthday". I did get a cooked breakfast but that was because we had gone out of town to visit his Nana and my Grandma and I had arranged the hotel making sure it had a cooked breakfast.
I have to say though that when he does buy me a gift that I haven't hinted at heavily they are really great. Xmas was a digital photo frame and years and years and years ago (for my 16th I think) he got me a beautiful Parker pen that was engraved. Presents like that are wonderful.
Actually in fairness though I didn't budget for birthday pressies for him or me this year but I did budget for Mothers and Fathers Day
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 8:52pm |
This thread is making me feel very high maintenance  ... yes, I choose my presents (cos I'd never be happy with what he chose for me, LOL), but it's is my one chance in the year to spurge on something that I wouldn't buy otherwise. This Sunday it's my birthday and I'm getting an artwork from DH and some beautiful fabric and a book from DD. Oh and we happen to be picking up a new puppy on my birthday too 
Kaiz, just tell him in advance what you really really want and then, every now and then, remind him how long it is until your birthday  ... but, I know, in an ideal world they would just *know* what we really really want without having to be told!
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Posted: 23 March 2010 at 9:29pm |
Yeah I did that damnit! I told him AGES ago I wanted a facial. He asked me ages ago too!
The one year I actually tell him what I want (After years of getting nothing because I've said I dont want anything!)
Oh well, day is over now 
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Posted: 24 March 2010 at 9:45am |
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My DH doesn't really get me anything -so now i just go get my own, wrap them up and give them to him to give to me. At least then i get something i want lol.
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Posted: 24 March 2010 at 10:17am |
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My ex was really awesome the first year we were together, but after that it was horrendous. Four years in a row he picked a fight with me the night before my birthday so he could ignore me for the entire day and feel justified in his own head for not getting me a present. Hell, not just no present - not even a 'happy birthday'!!
Of course, he got totally spoilt every year.
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Posted: 24 March 2010 at 11:01am |
kaiz231 wrote:
Is there anyone that gets absolutely nothing? |
Ah Kaiz - my 30th last year - it took DH about an hour to remember it was actually my birthday!
He did cook me whatever I wanted for dinner that night though 
It was a bit of a tragic year because a few weeks later he blew off my first mothers day to go hunting as well
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Posted: 24 March 2010 at 11:01am |
joshierocks wrote:
My ex was really awesome the first year we were together, but after that it was horrendous. Four years in a row he picked a fight with me the night before my birthday so he could ignore me for the entire day and feel justified in his own head for not getting me a present. Hell, not just no present - not even a 'happy birthday'!!
Of course, he got totally spoilt every year.
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You should've put him in a pot and BOILED him joshierocks!!!
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Posted: 24 March 2010 at 8:36pm |
It varies here, DH's family aren't big on things like that, so it's taken a while for him to come around. Usually I have to prompt him too, it's just not an important day in his mind.
This year (my birthday being this Friday) I have told him from 3 weeks out about my bday (he's away so he needed to get my present in advance lol). I then transferred money into his spending account so he had no excuse on not buying me a pressie.
He does however, do random things like going and buying me a nice piece of jewellery at random times (well he did before we were broke!)
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