from co-sleeping to having our own space.

DS 26 months has co slept with us since the September earthquake, its very normal for all of us now.. we have a Californian King bed so plenty of space.
We have recently weaned from breastfeeding during the night still, to having cows milk instead, so he still wakes a few times a night and asks for milk (not sure how to nicely stop this one but not concerned just yet).

Baby #2 is due in 12 weeks, and I'm not sure how well the co sleeping will go with baby in the room as well.

Does anyone have any experience and ideas how to wean off co sleeping? He self settles now, but only with me cuddling his back, so I don't think it's going to bed a short process..

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Is it the noise in the room when baby wakes in the night that u are worried will disturb C? They soon get used to noise- Isla can sleep through anything- even Aiden crying in the bed next to her- its only for as long as it takes us to hear him and get to him, but still, it doesnt wake her up!
What reason are u not planning to co-sleep til baby is 8 months old? After only co-sleeping out of necessity with #1 and #2- much more so with #2, we are planning to co-sleep by choose, from birth with #3.

not sure we would trust ourselves with a newborn in the bed (especially DP) and with C in there as well... where will we all fit, lol.

have been thinking about the sibling bed alot too, but thats a few years away

its not really a big deal, just thinking if we are going to change it we should do it before the baby comes..

and yeah noise i guess is the biggy, with DS1 still waking up, and a waking newborn... maybe we should just see how it goes!

Kellz wrote: We just bought a king size bed so we can fit the baby in with us better, and Isla and Aiden are in the same room- have tried them together in a big bed, but the more space Aiden has the more he moves about- and ends up sleeping horizontally with his feet in her face!

hehehe ! I have tried a few times too, but L wakes R up and thats the end of it   

Lizze we had Dh on one side then R then me then L . It worked quite well. But now we have Lewies bed in our room too. Gives us extra space.

We tried 4 in a bed a few times after DD2 was born and it was awful. The baby woke the toddler (or sometimes the toddler woke the baby; I have 2 pretty light sleepers) over and over. And the baby would then want/need a feed but it took her a good month to master latching, so until then, feeding was a two-handed, sit up straight, concentrate job. So I'd be trying to do that in the bed whilst DD1 desperately wanted a cuddle with me and was doing her best to squeeze herself between DD2 and I, sobbing if she got moved away by DH. It was utterly heartbreaking and awful. We ended up getting DH and DD1 to cosleep in her bedroom and DD2 and I to cosleep in our room for the first 6 weeks or so; now DH sleeps in with DD2 and I until DD1 wakes and cries out for him. It's just about getting some sleep in our house still.

At his age, you might be able to promote bed as a big exciting thing - talk to him about how tonight he's going to sleep in his own bed in his own room etc and make it an exciting thing. I'd take it gently and perhaps try things like DH going in to sleep in his room (DH has a spare bed in DD's room) if he needs it. The No-cry sleep solution has some ideas too, there is a toddler version.

My DS is 19 months old and has coslept with us since I became pregnant because I couldn't be assed slash was too tired to get out of bed to comfort him when he was waking in the night.

We started by having a single bed next to our bed with all his own bedding etc so that he got the idea that it was his special bed. It was really handy that the beds were the same height, not sure how it would work if they were different heights. We all had plenty of room too, with a king and a single next to each other.

He also became really attached to a teddy at this point so when he woke I would give him the teddy to cuddle and he was happy with that.

He started waking less and less so as the next step I separated the beds so his was still in our room but a metre or two away.

About a month ago we moved his bed into the spare room and he has been fine in there. He only ever wakes if he is cold and sleeps through most of the time.