Absolutley Shattered.

firstly hugs!!!! secondly dont let him take her anywhere until you have an order in place through the courts. ring first thing on tuesday and find out what you need to do to get a parenting order in place. you can come to your own arrangement and have it legalised through the family court or you can battle it out in court.........but if he takes her and doesnt give her back then you could be battling up to 6months through the courts to get her back, if at all...........

I think thats all correct, someone correct me if im wrong

Goodluck and just remember things will get easier with each new day and you can then get excited about the new life and experiences you are gonna have in your life

To you Kandice, and given what you have written over the last few years, you have tried so hard to make this relationship work. You both have a beautiful daughter together I guess if you are both focused on her welfare then you'll get through it and at least be able to be parents.

Would he really take her? Or is he simply hurting as well, men tend to threaten when they are.

I watched my brother and SIL go through a pretty messy separation and divorce, through out it all the kids came first and they're doing great, and they still have a mum and dad who love them dearly.

Wishing you lots of love, you will get through this, you seem a pretty strong woman.

There are two orders that you can arrange. One is a Protection Order which means that when you ask him to leave your property he must leave straight away - this is something you should do if you fear for your safety or the safety of your child.

There's another Order called the Family Order - or it might be called the Parent Order (I can't remember). This means that your husband/partner (ex) can't take the baby away from you. It's not a custody thing, it's just that if you don't have this in place, by law, he could take the baby and not bring her back and there is nothing you can do about it. The police are not legally able to take the baby back to you as a mother. I have heard of a case where that happened and the mother's milk dried up so she was not able to breastfeed when she got her baby back - I could not imagine something so awful as having your baby taken from you. If that's a possibility, you must be terrified! I urge you to get support ASAP.

I actually run a social and support group for single parents. The website I'll give you also has a link to the Facebook page. On the Facebook page (group) if you click on "Discussions" it will give you a list of resources. Those resources are amazing for a single parent. Actually I'll just add the list of resources link below underneath the website. You're welcome to look at both. There's loads of support out there, it's just a matter of reaching out. You are not alone!!!

www.singlelatte.webgarden.com

http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=133035500732&topic=9695

Firstly, sorry it hasn't worked Kandice, I know you've tried so hard for so long

Secondly, if you fear he's going to take her then don't hesitate calling the courts or the police to get an emergency order in place - they can often do it regardless of public holidays/weekends.

Secondly, get yourself a lawyer (CAB can provide cheap ones). You require a parenting order (just an interim one will get you through the next few months til things settle down) that state that he can't take her, and set times that he can see her if that's an option. You will then go for a full parenting order to be put in place down the track.

If you have issues with shared property (and I'm guessing you would have shared property as you've been together for the required period of time) and he is being unreasonable, you can also get a lawyer to draft a separation and relationship property agreement.

Good luck hun, let me know if there's anything I can do or if you want me to ask one of the lawyers at work about something for you

Good luck Kandice, things will get better. I know it's hard to believe that right in the middle of the heart ache, but it does get better. And your little girl would rather be from a broken home than live in one (~Dr Phil)

Thinking of you Kandice, you are an awesome mum to your beautiful wee girl Kylah. Keep being the great mum that you are

I have a slight idea of what your going through but certinly not to this extent . its awful , just want to send you huge , there is always a light at the end of a tunnel even if it doesnt look that way at the moment , chin up hun .