Second time around

No I'm not pregnant



But with second and subsequent pregnancies, how different is it from the first one?

Do your chances of emergency caesars drop if you had a natural birth the first time?

Is it just as scary and exciting?

How do you cope with tiredness/sickness and a toddler?

If you went private the first time, do most people go private again?

Sorry mine second time around was a nightmare, born early at 30 weeks gest, first was emerg c-section after 12 hour labour 1 hour pushing 10lb6oz big boy, second time around section was better for recovery though as not laboured, it really is pot luck.

for me the second time was pretty much the same except I had no morning sickness. otherwise I carried the same etc oh nad Monkey nuber 2 kicked more. I was excited and a little freaked out at what it would be like with no pain relief. (second was home birh) The second birth expirence was loads better cause I was more confident and knew how I wanted thing's. Had the same m/w for both. For the 3rd time round so far it is diffiernt I have been pretty ill with this one. as far as the tirdness goes my wee man was onlt 18 month's so slept in the day still so I jsut slept when both boy's slept

With second and subsequent pregnancies, how different is it from the first one?
It all depends on the baby. My pregnancies weren't too different except that by #3 I had got to know triggers for fatigue/nausea etc and the "cures", so I did a lot better in the first trimester. #2 was breach most of the time so that was different.

Do your chances of emergency caesars drop if you had a natural birth the first time?
I presume so. At least if you have had one VB you can be fairly sure that the next baby will fit through. But there is always a chance of the placenta giving out or the baby's chin catching. Not probable but always in the background. (My placenta gave up for #1 but I have had VBs for the other two. Because of the c/s history I definitely have increased chances of c/s again - especially for #2 - but will not necessarily have to have another.)

Is it just as scary and exciting?
Absolutely. Every crawling/kicking/heart beat milestone is just as exciting with subsequent babies (something I was really worried about!). It can also be as scary - am I really ready? (at 6 weeks and 36 weeks ) and preparing for labour - although at least you have a far better idea of what to do, what worked, what you liked, and your birth plan etc.

How do you cope with tiredness/sickness and a toddler?
Friends really help - if you can get them to pick up the toddler so you can have an hour's sleep is really cool, and some friends of mine brought around meals when #3 was just born. When I had #2 and #3, the toddler at the time was still sleeping once per day so I could catch the shut-eye when needed.

If you went private the first time, do most people go private again?
It's most common to go with the same mw again. When I had #3 I felt uncomfortable asking the same mw (felt uneasy with her after #2) but felt kinda honour-bound to, so I called her anyway but it turned out she was having health problems and referred me on anyway. Was the greatest thing ever because I got the awesomest mw after that

But with second and subsequent pregnancies, how different is it from the first one? Mine was completely different, not in a bad way it was just different. Like with Jack I had no ms a few UTIs, carried high, hard time breathing etc but with Caprece I had ms, constant thrush, always peeing, carried low and had nowhere near as bad pelvis pain

Do your chances of emergency caesars drop if you had a natural birth the first time? I think so I had to VBs and csects weren't even discussed second time around

Is it just as scary and exciting? Not as exciting and you kinda forget most of the time which can be good cos it makes it go so much faster. I was terrified at the start (way more than with Jack) of labour and birth and a newborn but by the time that baby is ready to come out you are just as excited.

How do you cope with tiredness/sickness and a toddler? You just deal with it really. Nothing else you can really do and think back to your first pregnancy and wonder what you ever complained about.

If you went private the first time, do most people go private again?I went with the same independant midwife both times

I found everything much easier second time around - pregnancy, labour, parenting. You have the experience of being pregnant, giving birth and raising a baby to fall back on. I just spoke to my nephew who is a new Dad (as of today) and they are a bit concerned they don't know what to do. I told him it never goes away, you just get used to feeling that way.

Baby no.2 was probably more exciting than scary (other way around for no.1). I didn't have a specialist or caesarian for either birth.

caitlynsmygirl wrote: I have a question, if thats alright, with the 2nd (or more) pregnancy did you ever wonder if you would love the new baby as much as the first, or worry that your first would be left out? Im not pregnant either,im just nosey

Yip I still worry about it now. For me it seems like there isn't enough time in the day for both and whoever I'm with I'm neglecting the other. I hate how I can't sit down and have cuddles and if they fall asleep be able to stay that way, like no matter what time the other will always need me as well. But you do love the second as much as the first and I find I make more of an effort with Jack because we don't get that much alone time. Jack has coped so well and doesn't seem to be terribly jealous of Caprece and loves cuddling her.

It is sooo worth it tho

caitlynsmygirl wrote: I have a question, if thats alright, with the 2nd (or more) pregnancy did you ever wonder if you would love the new baby as much as the first, or worry that your first would be left out?

OMG that was my biggest fear when I got the postive result.

You thinking about another baby Kelly?

meow wrote: You thinking about another baby Kelly?

haha , always! id love another baby , i really should stop coming on here and looking at the gorgeous bubbas cos its making me even more clucky!

Buuut (and i mean no offence to anyone on here this is just my personal situation) I want to be really ready (well as ready as you can be)next time,and i want to be able to say im pregnant and be confident that no one will think badly of me,as some members of my family did when I was pregnant with caitlyn , if that makes sense.