Early Babies

Kellz wrote: Lol Emma, yeah if it was that easy dont u think we would have 'snapped out of it' by now?!!

I just rolled my eyes (which of course she couldn't see, being on the phone lol) and said "haven't you seen the ads on TV, that's the WORST thing you can say!"

Yep, I think that's the hardest part with my mum, she is so down to earth and normal and SANE lol that she doesn't get why other people can't just be like that too.

Just try and tell yourself that this will have an ending.
That is what helps to get through the most difficult patches.

They will not induce you *just* for being depressed, they will simply put you on meds.

This is just from someone that fortunately had early labour stopped at 26 weeks, was supposed to be induced at 37, 38, 39, 40 weeks and finally came naturally: My boy was IUGR (growth restricted) but he was between 50-100g past the cutoff to be induced. I was so depressed because I thought I was doing something to him that was making him not grow. I didn't sleep for nearly 2 weeks straight, had to be monitored every 2 days for PE, was put on anti-d's, sleeping pills, codeine for a prostratic glandular uterus (the blood supply to my baby was being cut off at regular intervals). Had to have scans constantly where we could all but watch his rate of growth fall. He was in a bad way but still they didn't induce because the hospital was too busy. The only reason I wanted him out is because it was actually better for his health to be out than in. But I didn't care about myself. I also had carpal tunnel where I could only sleep for 2hours at a time before I had to go and freeze my hands so I couldn't feel the pain. After all of that, I couldn't breastfeed due to the trauma that we both had (especially Jack).

I would have loved him to come at 38 weeks when he reallly *needed* to be induced, but I would never have asked for an induction for my own sake, only for his. I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, but when you have a baby their life (which can hang in the balance if you whip them out early) is far more important than any other non-lifethreatening issues the mother may have.

Although sometimes you may feel inhuman and just an incubator that has to deal with all of these issues, you really do need to put it into perspective. Although a lot of people go through hell during their pregnancies, it's all worth it when you see your wee baby and hold them. Even the issues you are having...

I do hope you talk to your doctor or m/w about it though. And like someone else said, if you're not coping, they can put you in hospital until you give birth but that would probably be worse than what you're dealing with now.

And to give you an indication, my wee boy was 5lb at 35 weeks, and if you've ever seen a 5lb baby, you don't want one.

having said all that(and i agree with it) i realise it might be true but its hard to see that when you are suffering like you are:(